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In July 2012 I was fired from my state job for a falsified document. The truth is, I had a doctors appointment and filled out a leave of absence slip for a pre scheduled day off. Anyway, long story short, I didn't go to the doctors, and was caught by a supervisor from another shift. I looked for another job for two months with no luck. So, I claimed unemployment, and received it from September 2012, through August 2013. I just received a letter from the unemployment office saying the decision had been reversed, and I owe them over 16,000 dollars in overpayment! I know I need to file an appeal, but how do I get out of this? I didn't commit fraud in anyway, and I was fired while other people with the same charges kept their jobs in similar cases. I was a great employee in good standing at the time of my major mistake. What do I do? I have a full time job with good benefits, but I live check to check. I can't afford this. I live in Michigan, and wonder while they wait two years to reverse their decision?

Going to hunt the Shiawasse State Refuge this weekend for the first time. I've been a waterfowl hunter for years, but on private land, or out in the great lakes where it's possible to stay away from people. Here in Michigan, the game areas get hunted hard, and was wondering if there are certain decoy spreads, how many dekes, or other ideas that might make this hunt more successful. I've heard that less decoys are better, and I've heard that more are better. I've also heard that traditional decoy placement isn't effective in these areas after the first few days. Also, spinning wing decoys are not allowed. Any tips would be appriciated.

Doing my girlfriend a favor today, and I'm babysitting her two children. We all get along great, and I've been in the picture for a little over a year. The 10 year old asked me to make her a bowl of oatmeal this morning because she was still hungry after her cereal. She is normally not allowed to use the stove, but I was busy fixing the kitchen cabinet, so I told her she had permission to make it herself. She said she wasn't allowed, but I told her I was right here, and to go ahead. She then started screaming that she didn't know how. Remaining calm, I said to read the directions on the package. All she had to do was boil 1 cup of water. I then said go ahead, get a pot, and put 1 cup of water in it. She had a complete meltdown. I verbally explained how to turn the stove on (even though she knows) and to wait for the water to boil. I kept an eye on her so she didn't burn herself, but basically ignored her tantrum. The oatmeal turned out just fine. What was the reason for her poor attitude, and was ignoring the tantrum the right thing? I did talk to her after she calmed down, but she is still ticked about making the oatmeal herself.

A buddy of mine's mother was diagnosed with cancer, so he made the four hour trip home to be with family, and he was there for a little over a week. His girlfriend seemed supportive, and he called her at least twice a day to keep her updated. They have been together for ten months, and she has not yet met his parents. Even though she was willing to make the trip, she had her children that she has joint custody of, and they decided she would stay home unless he needed her to come down. (She doesn't have the extra money to spend on hotels, and gas) and she would not accept him paying for it. Anyway, he came back home, and called me that night to let me know everything was as good as it could be, yet his girlfriend was upset and yelling at him. She told him she feels left out, that he didn't "need" her, and that they are not on the same page, and haven't been for weeks. Now, the guys mother and him are extremely close, and he was obviously worried sick about her. I thought about this after I hung up with him. Doesn't it seem out of line to be expressing those feelings she has at that particular time? I mean, the guy has enough to worry about I think.

My 10 year old girl bought a stick on tattoo out of a vending machine, and said she wanted to look like Miley Cyrus. Our 7 year old flattend out the bill on her baseball hat to emulate Justin Beiber, and stated, "Don't worry dad, I just like his music." The parental controls on the T.V. and computer are pretty strict around here, and I'm sure they're getting most of their info from friends. Are these people my children should be looking up to?

Two kids are 9 and 7, and I've been in a relationship with the mom for almost a year. The parents are divorced and have joint custody. The children are generally good kids, we all get along, but lately things have been a little tense. The kids are acting out more than usual, telling me to shut up, not taking no for an answer, always asking why, screaming when they lose a game, etc. It's completely on my nerves, yet I feel the kids need patience, love, and understanding. My problem is, my girlfriend gets extremely upset when I say something to them that she finds offensive. I said yesterday, Ya know, that's a very spoiled attitude, and you're acting like a brat." Boy, did the claws come out on that one as my g/f told me name calling was not nessessary. So, I just went about my business, and stayed out of the way. We have communicated up and down, and her parenting style is not one I fully agree with. However, I don't let it ruin my day thinking about it, I just let it go. She will tell the child to be quiet 10 times until she finally yells at them, and then they're quiet. I'm more agitated at my g/f than I am the kids, as I feel it's not their fault. I think I just need to relax and continue to give them what they need. I don't see us breaking up anytime soon, and I want us to be a happy family, I just don't know what my boundries are, my g/f says one thing, but means another. Any thoughts?

What is the cheapest way to fix a dime sized paint bubble on a rear quarter panel? It's on the rear passenger side right above the wheel well. A body shop quoted me $400 and I was wondering if this can be a do it yourself project.

I'm dating a wonderful women for about a year, and she has two children 7, and 9. We all get along great, and for the most part, we're happy. The 7 year old girl is quite the chatterbox, but the cuteness is wearing off. I'm not trying to sound harsh to a child, and I'm wondering how, or if we need to help her in different ways. From the moment she wakes up, until she goes to sleep, she's talking/screaming. Her mother will have to scold her 10 times a day or better, for the excessive noise when she screams. Mom will ask her to quiet down two or three times, and only until she gets visually upset about it will the noise stop. She is not ADHD, and does not get into trouble at all in school for talking. She's a really good student. Also, the child is negative about everything. She just said, "Why should I try, I'm just going to lose anyway," in regards to a board game. She has a hard time keeping friends due to her bossiness. She will tell even adults how we are going to do something, and when we are going to do it. If a game is being played, she will try and take control. If her sister is doing something, she will have to do the same thing without fail. If the sister is eating a strawberry, she will have to have a strawberry for example. I'm worried she is suffering from a self esteem issue, or something along those lines. We have tried positive reinforcement for a couple of months now, and nothing is getting better. She asks questions that make no sense constantly and we always try to answer her honestly. But she will come up with something such as, "Mom, do bee's really have 42 legs?" It's all day, everyday. I am wondering what could be the cause of her being bossy, needing to do everything her sister does, her negative attitude, and constant talking. She is a wonderful little girl, and is very sweet. I don't know if punishment is answer, or what to do @ this point. The girl is obviously bothered by something. Her parents are divorced, and my girlfriend has joint custody. The dad is an idiot, but he does care for his kids.

My girlfriend and I have been arguing... well, let me rephrase that. She's been upset with me for three days now, and I'm not sure why. However, I was texting her letting her know the results of my Dr.s appointment. She asked a few questions, and it took me ten minutes or so to respond to the last one. I answered her and she ended the conversation with "Ok, sorry to bother you." My gut tells me there is something behind that text. Any ideas? I did text her back and let her know she's never a bother.

When is it time to throw in the towel with someone you genuinely love? Presuming they didn't cheat.