Am I alone in thinking that having kids is to serve self?

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I'm sure I will be put on the stake for this but... I have never wanted children. I have my hands full with me. 
My point is, I hear people talk about the best thing in their life is their kids, when the child hugs them, when the child needs something and they can give it... 
It all feels very, pathetic. Like that is what it took for you to feel loved... to feel needed?
Don't get me wrong, I have two boys that live with my ex. Good boys. But I don't feel that way. 
I just feel like they are two more souls on this planet. Two souls I don't really know that well, living with their mother and being 10 and 12, not really developed as people. 
But I don't feel like most parents do, or at least "say" they do.
I'm 38 now and a successful self made business man with questions about how other people REALLY feel about having kids, or the kids they have!
So please, let me know your true feelings as I have expressed here. 
And I look forward to your fire from the sky as well. =]

Gemma · Accepted Answer

There's nothing wrong with not wanting kids at all. Some people feel that their lives can't be complete until they've had children and some people just don't feel the need, or even think that their lives would be ruined if they did have them. Honestly, it's such a massive decision that there really is no point in pretending you feel one way when you don't. When your children grow up you can get to know them as people, and maybe become friends in your own right :)

JayJay S · Answer

There's nothing wrong with your thinking some people are not programed to have kids while most are. that's a good thing because if everyone had 4 kids like me there be way to many kids in the world. 
But they is people out there with kids that should not have kids. 
your thinking is ok

? · Answer

Having children is a pathetic excuse for existence.

Am I alone in thinking that having kids is to serve self?

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