How to be more confident and social?

Question

I'm a shy person, and it's hard for me to make new friends. it's also hard for me to make small talk with someone that i kinda know, but isn't necessarily a friend--more like a classmate. I'm not completely antisocial, i'm quite talkative when i'm with my friends. However, it's become hard for me to talk to anyone but them. Like, if we're talking and then another classmate comes by, i get all quiet and shy. So any tips on how to be more confident, and how to be more social with other people? I want to go into business or become an entrepreneur, but i know that no matter how hard i study, if i don't have the social skills, i'll become a failure. Thanks, any help is appreciated.

Filly8 · Accepted Answer

Well coming from someone who had the say problem i can honestly say you simply have to rearrange your attitude about it. This sounds hard and can be very nervewracking at first but their is no magic cure. Try and learn to be confident in yourself and always remember that it is very very very likely that they are just as shy about meeting new people and making friends as you are (and in the same way wanting to make new friends just as much!). 

So in the long run i would say the most important thing to remember is to be self confident (which takes work) and just htink tht even if you do end up a bit awkward the first couple times what does it matter? If they become your friend then it worked and if they didn't then well.. who cares; they missed out! Calling yourself a failure already isn't helping that self esteem! If you want to go into that field then you are correct social skills aare soemthign to work on for sure but your entire career won't be based off those skills and as you grow up more and become more confident in yourself as a person it will get better especailly if you work on it!
Best of luck and i hope i helped!

How to be more confident and social?

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