What gift do you buy for a wedding couple when they only want money.?

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There is nothing wrong with asking for money for your wedding! If you are spending alot of money on feeding and entertaining your guests you may not have enough money left over for the honeymoon which is exactly what myself and my partner are doing! They have 2 kids as well so probably don't get any holidays together alone. Did you ask what the money was for? I don't think it's rude at all. If they have been together and lived together for a long time like I have then they probably already have everything they need/want for their life together. Just give them the money and stop being so old fashioned move with the times.

I am 100% with J'aime - In fact I "love" that answer - If they don't want any gifts, why make it hard on yourself and waste time and gasoline thinking of and going to buy a gift? As far as you disagreeing with asking for money for a gift - eh? I don't agree with a lot of things people do, but if their decision makes my life easier, why fight it? No couple wants another photo frame - guaran-dang-tee that! And what is the difference between giving cash and giving a Visa gift card (there are fees to buy those, you know) or a gift card to a movie? Not much in my opinion (you're still giving them money, you're just designating where they have to spend it) and a whole lot less useful (read - pain in the ***, as I may not even like to go to movies, shop at that store, etc.). Give them the cash they want so that they can buy something they need - all at once, instead of piecemeal money spent all over town with nothing to show for it. I would much rather have four people give me $50 cash each to spend toward a new washing machine/dishwasher/lawnmower/carpeting than have four separate $50 gift cards to different places.

If you don't agree with asking money as a gift, don't ask money as a gift, but it's not up to you to educate them on good manners.You're not their mother.

My husband and I did not have a registry or made any request for any specific gift/cash when we got married, because we did think both would be rude. But it's definitely the cash gifts that were the best and most useful presents we got. We're not using any of the coffee mugs ad bed linen sets anymore, but the cash did pay for the wedding hotel lunch and that was a huge relief for us at the time.

The gift cards were pretty much useless too. I used the one I got to buy shampoo because there was nothing else really useful in that shop.

Still grateful for all the presents I got. I did not invite people for presents anyway, but the cash was certainly a huge help.

Just get over yourself, see how much you planned on spending on a gift and give the cash.

If they've specifically made the request, it's just as rude to ignore it as it was to make the request in the first place.

I understand not wanting to give them money but as you said they have lived together for a considerable time so probably have things they already need.

My mum always gets around this dilemma by giving them small money gift AS well as small gift that they can keep long term. Such as the photo frame for wedding photo or keepsake box or something that they can keep in honour of marriage as well as money for whatever it is they want it for.

Pity you don't know why they want money such as towards major item or holiday or something because then you can skip that and get gift similar.

At least you know they'll spend it somewhere if not on themselves probably on kids.

Times are changing a lot, people...These days, it's commonplace for a bride and groom to live together, sometimes for years, and they already have pretty much everything they need for their household. They don't need a toaster, blender, slow-cooker, skillet, etc. So a lot of times these days, yes...the engaged couple will ask for money.

With the economy struggling like it is, people aren't making as much money as they used to. Controversially, 'things' are getting more expensive; like weddings. So, here you have a broke couple who now need to pay for an expensive wedding. So what if they want money to help pay for it? I think as time continues on, this request for money as presents will become less taboo, and more realistic of a gift. After all, what couple wants to start out their marriage in a pile of debt?

I would give them money. If you are close, at least $100. If not, try for around $50. As for the gift cards, I would nix that idea if they specified that they need money. Cash. Gift cards aren't going to help them pay off that $3,000 catering bill from the reception, or that $500 church fee, etc.

Like I said, times are changing. We must change right along with them, and accept the fact that newlywed couples these days can no longer afford weddings.

Generally, I give money for the wedding anyway. Did they specifically ASK for money, or did you find out through some other means? Was it in response to a question you asked them or was it requested in some way? (Because that would have a bearing on my response...)

That's a difficult one...

Maybe a voucher from a shop (could be something like a home ware shop for their new life together) or even just a cute money box with some money inside?

Really, i think the best thing you can do is just give them money. When you have just got married and are starting out a fresh, you don't need one hundred cutlery sets or twenty toasters and kettles or fifty lampshades and candles. All you really need is the money to buy the things you actually do need.

I don't agree with asking for money as a gift either.. but let's get real. If you are going to get them a gift anyways... just give them the money. If you buy them a gift just to spite them it will be wasted. Do yourselves both a favour.

This is very difficult. Most couples want money these days, most guests give money these days... but still, I find it distasteful to outright ask for it.

I think "diamond" had a great answer with the movie tickets. Its not money, but at least you know they'll get use out of it. It would be a shame to buy them something they don't need/want.