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My husband and I were just married on 6-30-12 (6 days ago). Everything has been going wonderfully. Our honeymoon was amazing. Today, we are to head to a town about 2 hours away to pick up our daughter who has been being babysat by trusted family while my husband and I honeymoon.

Last night, my husband, his brother, his dad and mom all went out to a local eatery/bar to get some dinner. I was exhausted, so I opted out. My husband's family has a problem with drinking. They're good people, but they get a bit carried away at the bars. My husband quit drinking a while ago because when he has one drink, one leads to another, and another, until he's tanked. He's obnoxious and makes terrible decisions when he's drunk, so he quit drinking.

Well last night, I texted him to politely (and as non-naggy as possible) to let him know he ought to call it a night since we have a long drive ahead of us today, and lots of family to see. He kept saying he was going to give his brother a DD right home, but as the hours passed, I got more and more concerned that my husband was drinking. I didn't want anyone driving home drunk, and the later it got, I was sure he was drinking plenty. So after he didn't answer my phone call around 12:30 am, I headed down to the bar to let him know that it was time to go home, and I told his brother and dad that they are riding with me (since they were wasted already). I was stern, and honestly, quite angry since they were actually planning on driving! Drunks make terrible decisions, and that's someone else's life out there that they're driving nearby. So my husband sheepishly came out of the bar and claimed he was not drunk, although he was teetering back and forth. After I read them the riot act about not driving drunk, and how tired I am of all the drinking, I got them to get home.

Later, my husband began to argue with me about how he wasn't drunk, and that me showing up to the bar was "creepy". Seriously? Was it creepy? I thought I was doing the right thing by making sure nobody drove drunk. I love these people, but I'd strangle them if they ever were to put someone else's life in danger with drunk driving. I felt like the naggy new wife who's dragging her husband home by his ball and chain, but at the same time, I felt it was the right thing to do. After being reamed about how "creepy" that was, and how I had no right to do what I did, my husband slept on the couch. This just isn't right, I feel. Do you think I overreacted or was "creepy"? Just asking, so I can get this problem solved and move on from it.

Ah...I made the mistake of listening to "Miss Thang" at the boutique where I bought my dress...The wedding dress has a train on it that is about 4 feet long. Underneath the train is a loop of fabric, which the assistant (Miss Thang) at the boutique said I could just latch onto my bodice strings at the reception to keep the train up. I tried it out, and it looked fluffy and pretty, so I went with it. Well, yesterday I was in David's Bridal picking up my veil, and my friend who's a manager there, said that I shouldn't use that loop to hold up my train at the reception. She said that loop is only meant to hang the train up on the coat hanger, and that it can break. Uhhh...my wedding's in 4 days, so I definitely don't have time to get it bustled, or altered...any suggestions on how to make this problem disappear? Any help is MUCH appreciated!!

Honestly, it was just more money we'd have to spend, and after all the planning, getting things organized, etc. it slipped my mind haha. Does it really matter if you publish your wedding in the paper? What is the purpose of this, is also another question? Thanks!

Soooo....my wedding is in 4 days, and we're getting married in a church. I made bows out of tulle fabric, so they're lightweight. I was planning on using wreath holders on the side of each pew to hold the bow onto, but yesterday at Mass, I realized that the sides of the pews are only one-inch thick, and you can't hang wreath hangers on it. Does tape work? What kind of tape sticks to tulle fabric, so bows aren't falling off during the ceremony? Haha...I'm KINDA panicking here, people... ;)

Even before we got engaged, I was dreading my fiance's bachelor party. You know...us girls hear horror stories about strippers, lap dances, boobs and a$s everywhere, dumb behavior, etc. Haha. Last night was my fiance's party, and this morning, I woke up with him next to me in bed! He probably did an all-nighter, but he got home safe and sound--and I only freaked out about strippers for maybe an hour by myself last night haha. How did you handle your fiance's bachelor party?? Were you worried? Nervous? Just fine with it? :) Just curious! :)

I have researched it online, but there's so many different ways to do it. So here's the thing--we're having a Catholic wedding w/Mass, and so we are having a traditional, non-themed reception in a great ballroom. I can't seem to find just a traditional, good old-fashioned timeline of events for a reception. Toasting, dinner, cutting the cake, etc. Can someone please give me some advice? We're having a photographer present for the first few hours into the reception for the first dance and stuff--but I honestly have no idea when the first dance even occurs haha. I was definitely not born to be a wedding planner! Haha Help please... :)

I keep seeing stuff in bridal mags, etc. where tables are numbered. At our reception, we were only really planning on reserving several tables for immediate family, and letting others seat themselves near people whom they'd like to be seated next to. Are we supposed to have people sit in certain spots with numbered tables? Seems like extra work that I don't wanna put together 8 days before my wedding right now! Haha!

I made my bouquet myself, using roses. I bought a ton of roses (50) and thought I'd have enough for myself and 5 bridal party members. Ohhhh...how wrong I was! Haha! My bouquet took 42 roses, and there's not enough left for my lovely ladies. The roses were quite expensive, and I don't think I quite possess the financial ability to afford them all roses as well. So, can anyone please give me some advice on what other kinds of flowers to make my ladies' bouquets out of that will compliment roses, but cost less? I don't want them to feel like, "Oh, nice bouquet, J'aime...thanks for giving us carnations, cheapskate!" Haha! I love my girls, and I want them to know they are cherished, and I want them to look beautiful and feel beautiful, holding a nice bouquet. Their dresses are black, and their shoulder strap has black daisy-like flowers on them, with a crystal in the middle of each flower. Thanks for your help in advance! xoxo

This certain bridesmaid happens to be my little sister who is 27 years old. Her and I were best friends as kids, until my mother and I had a huge falling out and cut ties. My sister since then has always been a mommy's girl...but has gotten heavily involved in my mother's game playing. I invited my sister to be a bridesmaid in my wedding, because I felt it was the right thing to do. We are fairly close now, after she had her daughter and we had a little more in common (I'm a mom, too). My intentions for having her as a bridesmaid were to show her that I love her, despite all of the family feuding, and in hopes that it would bring us closer.

However, all she does when we talk is talk about herself. If I bring up my wedding, she starts saying how she hates weddings, how weddings should be small (we're having a Catholic wedding w/Mass), how she hates being in weddings, etc. I thought about booting her for a while, but that's not the right thing to do. But she skipped my bridal shower, saying she had to work--even though she had plenty of notice for it. Now she's also skipping my bachelorette party for reasons she hasn't explained. She is extremely uncooperative in anything I ask her to do--even when it simply came to trying on her bridesmaid dress. I even had my sister in-law hand-deliver it to her house! Now, whenever I call/text my sister, I get no response whatsoever. It's getting so frustrating, and honestly, very hurtful. I was hoping my sister of all people would be a little more enthusiastic about this whole thing. I'm the farthest thing from a bridezilla, but I do have feelings, and this crap definitely hurts.

If she was your sister, what would you do? She plays games like no other, and when she is confronted on something, she responds by blocking people from all forms of communication. It's ridiculous, and sad on her part. But I want to get this resolved, and I just don't see what I can do to remedy this situation in a calm manner. And please, no sarcastic responses.

My mother and I haven't seen each other in over ten years. Long story short, she was very abusive, and she's nuttier than a squirrel turd. I am pretty religious, so I try my hardest to do the "right" thing in my life. So when it came to my wedding invitees, I did pray and ask God what to do in the case of inviting my mother. To say that her and I loathe one another would be putting it lightly. I have prayed that I can forgive her, or even for the *desire* to forgive her, but I still hold a lot of resentment towards her. I have a 5 year-old daughter whom I offered to take to the town where my mother lives so she could meet her (trying to do the right thing), and she didn't want to even meet her own granddaughter. To this day, I guess if someone is looking at pictures of my daughter on their phone, and my mother is nearby, she refuses to even look at pictures of her. So I'm in this place where my personal problems with my mother are out-shadowed by the fact that she involves children, specifically mine, in her petty games.

So, back to the invites...I prayed, and came up with the answer that I should send my mother an invite. I also sent her a separate letter at the same time, saying that I forgive her, and that she is not obligated to attend my wedding. I also included her antique rosaries that she had given me as a child, as a sign of peace to her. I never heard back from her, so I have no idea if she's coming to my wedding or not. Either way, I figure since I prayed about the matter, that whether she comes or not will be in God's plans, and I need to just go with it. However, I'm making my wedding programs, and in them I need to list people in the wedding (groomsmen, bridesmaids, etc). One of the things I need to list is "Parents of the Groom" and "Parents of the Bride". My brother will be representing my father at the wedding, as our dad is deceased. So I listed my father's name with "(in spirit)" after it, and "Represented by _____" with my brother's name. I didn't list my mother's name, because I seriously doubt she'll be there. She hasn't taken any part whatsoever in my wedding planning, my life, etc. So I didn't list her. But now, I'm thinking, "What if she shows up??"

Should I list her as a parent in my programs, considering all of this information??

It needs to go away. It's annoying me.

It's a Cathedral veil, and it's about 12 feet long...obviously I can't have it dragging all over the place at the reception. Do brides take it off for the reception? Or do you fold it or something? Haha

The last thing I need to do for my June 30th wedding is figure out my center pieces! :) Here's a picture of the vase we'll be using:

http://www.recycledbride.com/listing/6898/cylinder...

It is 12 inches high, 6 inches wide. The wedding colors are Light Pink, Black, and Ivory. I wanted to stay away from the floating candle idea as much as possible, since it's so-often used and becoming cliche. Also, I am a bride on a tight, tight, tight budget right now. (Rest of the wedding sucked up our funds). So any cheap ideas?? I am very artistic, so I can MAKE the center pieces if you have some crafty ideas! Any help would be absolutely most appreciated!! :)

My fiance and I are both Catholic, and we're having a mass at our wedding. If any of you have ever been to a Catholic wedding, you know they're anywhere from an hour to and hour-and-a-half long. It's a sacrament in the church, and so it's very important to us. A lot of our friends/family have very small children under one year of age. I've tried hinting to these people not to bring their children by telling them there's a mass at the wedding, but they all keep saying, "Oh, that's ok!". Well, honestly, it's not with me...every Sunday when we go to Mass, kids are crying left and right, and it takes forever for the parents to decide it's time to take their kid out of the gathering hall to somewhere else where people don't have to hear the screaming child. I have a kid myself, and I was very conscientious about not bringing her to places where the environment was supposed to be quiet. But I really, really, REALLY don't want young children at our wedding. The reception, fine...we rented an extra room specifically for kids, with a TV, dvd player, toys, coloring stuff, cots, etc. But the wedding is different...how do I go about letting my friends with young children know that I don't want kids there?

So, I love my fiance, but he's very frugal...to say the least haha. He and I really want cash for our wedding, as it ended up being a lot more expensive than we'd planned on. However, we know it's taboo to just straight-out ask for money. So anyway, we went and registered at Target after everyone kept hassling us about where our registry was. Problem was, during the registering, my fiance only had us scan really expensive items...his reasoning was that people won't be able to afford anything on the registry, so they'll just give us money. Haha...I get his thinking, but people are going to think we're so selfish! I'd hate to offend anyone who looks at it. Any suggestions? (And talking him out of it is not an option, trust me haha).

I've been planning my wedding, which is in 4 weeks...the stress from family in-law drama, cramming stuff, etc. has left me with a stress breakout :( I use Olay Pro-X facial wash, a nice lotion to smooth tones, and the Neutrogena acne spot treatment pen, but nothing's working to get rid of this outbreak. :( Any ideas??

Has anyone else totally had a breakout from the stress of planning their wedding?? My wedding is in 4 weeks, and as it gets closer and we're cramming more stuff, I'm getting stressed out and having a minor acne breakout. Any good advice for how to remedy this quickly for the wedding day? I use Olay Pro X facial cleanser, and a nice lotion to smooth the skin, and Neutrogena acne pen, but all of this isn't working... super frustrating...

My fiance's cousin is a pill and alcohol addict. She mixes them to a point where she completely blacks out and abuses her husband physically, drives her children while she's blacked out, she lit her bed on fire with her children in the house while she was blacked out, etc. etc. etc. Her behavior was so scary that I distanced myself from her months and months ago. I don't even talk to her. But her family has started to talk trash about me behind my back, as to divert attention from the addict. I went to talk to my spiritual adviser yesterday because I have all of this burden on my back (I'm the only one who knows what she's done). I've tried talking to her mom about it, but she refused to sit and talk with me. So my spiritual adviser suggested that I call Child Protective Services on this woman who's the addict.

Problem is, I distanced myself from her like 6 months ago, so I have no proof that the abuse is still occurring, although I am certain that it is, since she's still in the midst of addiction. I have no idea if I should call or not...those children mean the world to me, as they used to be my daughter's best friends (her children are 5 and 7). I just want them to be safe, in a healthy environment, and I want their mother to get help. Nobody seems interested in getting her help; they'd rather sweep her addiction under the rug. I am really scared because before I cut ties with this addict, she was talking seriously about killing herself. I talked her out of it, but addictions usually end in three ways: suicide, she gets killed, or they are forced into treatment. I think considering the circumstances, that I'd much rather call Child Protective Services and see her forced into treatment rather than the other 2 options.

But calling CPS on someone is a very serious charge. It's a heavy load, and I am very confused as to what to do. Help, please, without sarcasm.

I'm making a slideshow of pictures/videos of mine and my fiance's lives together leading up to our marriage. It will include video and pictures, and I'd like to add music to it, too. However, I seriously live under a rock or something and have no idea how to get music onto my computer, which program to use that is easy to edit pictures and videos to make the DVD, etc. Does anyone know how to do this, or what programs to use? I need user-friendly ones, as I am not an expert at this stuff. Also, how to get the music onto my computer? I know...I sound like an idiot haha.

Pretty self-explanatory. haha But also, what IS a bridal shower, exactly? I only sent out 29 invitations, about 1/3 of which probably won't be able to attend because they live a little too far away to come to town for one day. But I didn't know how many people are supposed to be at a bridal shower, what kind of gifts to expect, what's involved in it, and what to wear? Haha I live under a rock, I think ;) haha