My baby is crying out for help and I don't know what to do to help, pls help me?

hmmm. i can't offer any more than the usual.........she needs to be treated by a medical doctor. but, the unique part of this situation is that your daughter suffered a MAJOR trauma, and then had another baby...........and that alone can cause post partum depression. she may physically and mentally be so overwhelmed. once she is treated with the proper medication, and counseling, she will find a place where she can begin to move forward with her life. hopefully she will once again find peace and solace in a relationship with the lord, and that will lead her back to church where she can find a good church family. some churches have groups such as arms, called empty arms, a support group for parents who have lost a child.

i cannot begin to imagine the burden this dear child of yours is bearing. how simply tragic it is that she must for the rest of her days bear the pain of knowing that she took the life of her precious child. she never set out to do that............she never wanted that to happen...........but, it has, and as with all accidents, you can't go back, you can't change the outcome, you feel so helpless.

hang in there, and love her, be with her, listen when she wants to talk, back off when she just needs quiet. be there for the other kids. and pray pray pray!

i'll pray too!

dear heavenly father, we thank you for this father, so loving, so compassionate towards his hurting daughter. they have been through so much and now they need your loving arms to wrap around them and to comfort them, and to bring them some kind of peace in this sad situation. we ask father that you would somehow bring this young mother to a place where she can forgive herself for the accident that took her baby. help her to heal and to move on. reveal yourself clearly to her, and help her to find a good church where she can be fed spiritually, and ministered to physically. father, bring peace and joy to all the family members. and give this father wisdom and understanding in all the ways that he can help his daugther. thank you father that his heart is so open to his daughter's pain and his desire is to be there for her. bless him for that. thank you father for being our rock our strength our deliverer our redeemer. we lift up this young mom to you and we thank you for her life, and we ask that you bless her and help her in the way that only you can.

amen.

god bless you this day and every day forward.

Everybody deals with grief in their own way, the reality is your daughter will never get over this. Never forget this. It is a terrible thing. She will just find ways of living around the pain that she feels, this pain is now a part of her as it is probably a part of you.

I know a man who was involved in a car accident with his heavily pregnant wife in the passenger seat. It was not his fault, but his son was born retarded & died due to complications from the original accident. He has never forgiven himself & still tells the story to anyone who will listen, it happened over 30 yrs ago. He has just found ways to live a productive life while honouring his pain.

All that you can do is be there with her, sit with her while she is crying/screaming. No words from anyone, not you, not a counsellor, not god, will ease her pain. Remember this baby, don't pretend this baby girl did not exist. As for your daughter, if it is her you are apart from you should consider moving back & confronting this with her or at least visiting. I know you also have your own grief to deal with & you have chosen to leave the state.

Maybe looking for parents who have lost children & letting her hear their stories & telling her own will help her know that her feelings are normal. She can do this in internet chat rooms if she does not want to identify herself. Reality is the only ones who will even come close to understanding what she is going through are people who have been through the same thing.

The answer is a very long and complicated. How long ago did the accident happen.

There is a thing called the 5 stages of grieving, type that into a search engine and you should find it. Obvioulsy her biggest problem is that she blames herself for her daughters death.

I have seen a similiar thing and 5 years later the woman is still drinking herself to death.

If you can't find it or need more advice or just want to swap emails you can email me, my emaill address is on my profile.

Well, you could stop thinking about her, and describing her as "my baby". If she's 31 and has had 5 children then she is no baby. She's an adult and needs to be treated and respected as such.

Socondly, you say she has re-married. In that case she should be turning to her husband for comfort, discussion, etc. NOT her father. If she really is married (in her head and heart as well as on paper) then she should have left you behind at the altar.

That's why a father "gives away" his daughter immediately before she is wed.

Moreover, clinging on to your daughter as though she is still a dependent child probably isn't doing you much good, either.

Sounds like time for everyone to move on. And there's no time like the present.

I'm not no professional at this sort of thing, but have you told her that it wasn't her fault? Lot of people tend to hurt themselves even more when something like this happens, maybe they feel that they need to inflict more pain on themselves to pay for what they've done ..sort of speak.. it is best for everyone to let her know everyday that it wasnt her fault.. everyone has a time to go..and it was just that baby's time to go.. if it wouldnt have been that way..it could have been another.. and she should no longer torture herself over something that was probably meant to be... and I dont mean meant to be with the pain the child may have went through or the way the child went.. it was just meant to be with the lord and the lord probably took that baby before any of the suffering happened..

I hope I dont offend you with this answer..those are my feelings..beliefs..

Sounds like you could use The Book called

Death and Dying by

Elizabeth Ross

Sounds like she is Angry with you for leaving her in her time of need...........Anger is a stage of grieving............but it can stagnate for a very long time unless one works through it.....