Is he being too controlling?

Question

I just started dating this guy about two weeks ago.. Since our very first date, he's made it a habit to take my phone at the beginning of each date. I can ask for it back for a specific purpose and he'll give it to me for a few minutes, but it's not fully returned until I leave him. He asked for my phone code on the first date... but never got it. He won't let me wear hats around him.. Any type - caps, beanies, etc. And he's very strict about it. I thought he was joking at first, but now every time I wear a hat to go see him, he takes it and wears it himself, saying "I told you - no hats. You're too cute for that". ?? He doesn't give them back either. And he's clingy. A breakfast date turns into a full day event, even if I had already told him I had prior plans... And even then he'll still be ending the nights with plans for the next morning. But he barely calls/texts me, only to make plans to see each other. Is this normal?? Or should I be worried? I've never had a guy act like this.

Update:

I asked about his past relationships and he claims they break up with him.. surprised me at first, cause he's a real catch. Could that be why??

Update 2:

I mean, at first I thought the phone thing was just to show he wanted my attention... and the hat thing was personal preference, but..

? · Answer

You should be worried because the red flags are all around you. You set he boundaries and if you let him cross those he will increasingly get worst. Control leads to mental, emotional and sad to say physical abuse. The fact he is this clingy early on is a sign that something is clearly not right. Listen to what you gut instinct is telling you. When you don't listen to it, and it turns out to be true the damage is already done. Save yourself that damage, lost and wasted valuable time, and potential hurt. Walk away as best as you can and do not look back

Shannon · Answer

You're really having to ask!? Look at it this way, if your best friend told you this about a guy shes been dating for two weeks, what would you say?

Also, if hes doing this now...imagine your lives together a couple of months, or years down the line.

Get rid!!

King-Galaxius S · Answer

Yes. This guy is too controlling and may be abusive. Break up with him as soon as possible.

Serene E · Answer

TOO CONTROLLING!!!   Dump him ASAP!!!!
Don' want to get involved with this creep!!!

Anonymous · Answer

No you seem to stupid to think for yourself better just let him

Is he being too controlling?

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