Who is that person?

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When a woman goes through menopause and begins the change- -which in many ways, because of the reduced estrogen, causes some serious physiological changes. These changes tend to bring forth some strong masculine traits as well as some serious tweaking to her core personality. 
I know many are going to say that estrogen therapy will cure this issue- -but contrary to popular belief, nothing could be farther from the truth that there has been a core change to that person which effects who and what they are.
That said, when a couple gets to a stage where the person they married and knew for X years is no longer there- -do you stay for the memories or do you say and hope to adjust to this new person? Or is this just an aspect of our vows, “for better or worse”.

Starfish · Answer

Eh?  I doubt many women experiencing menopause experience "core changes to their personality".

It's something they go through.

If you don't want to stick around because she's bitchy and hot, then don't, but don't go looking for some philosophical excuse for yourself.

Bentley · Answer

Your observation about how menopause changes a woman is incorrect.  I  haven't met 2 woman that experienced the same symptoms and changes of menopause.  But.. The same question would apply to any change a man/woman goes through.  After 30 yrs of marriage.. neither person is the same one they married.    Hell, just 10 yrs into my marriage, my husband was a totally different person,  He had some seriously life changing events and health struggles.  Should I leave because I want the man he was 10 years ago?  That logic makes no sense to me.  The only thing you can know for SURE when you marry is that your partner and you will change through the years.. in some better ways and in some more challenging ways.  I have found that physical changes alter a person about the same as an emotional challenges

Who is that person?

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