Should I go to a party if my girlfriend cannot go?

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I was invited to a senior year party on New Year's Eve. It would be the second party I've been to, but the other was just a few people. I do not want her to worry about me or be jealous, but I also don't want her to end up possibly preventing me from having fun. I want to go. By having fun, I mean drinking and being stupid with some friends. I do NOT plan on cheating. She is the love of my life and I cant do that to her. But I want to be able to dance with people and have fun. I haven't told her I was invited yet. And so far, she hasn't been, but she knows the host as well.

What should I do?

Elliot Kane · Accepted Answer

Why not ask the host if it's OK to bring your GF?  Isn't that the easiest answer?  S/he may even be expecting the two of you to go as a couple.

This doesn't have to be a big thing, or a problem.

Maria · Answer

I asked a similar question a couple of mins ago... I really don't know exactly what you should do, but I think, if you really really want a flourishing relationship with her, she would really appreciate it if you didn't go. I know it sucks, everyone wants to have fun. You have to weigh the odds between immediate fun and long term relationship. When you find someone you don't want to lose, they have to come first I think. I'm only trying to help and this is my honest opinion which I plan on following myself. Wouldn't you get hurt if she went to a party you couldn't go to and got drunk? If she's serious about, her feelings will get hurt, even if she doesn't say anything about it. I'm not sure this is what you want to hear, but it's the advice I'd give to myself :)

? · Answer

Don't tell her about it for now. A couple weeks before the party, plan a nice date with her for the weekend before the party. A day after your date, you tell her you are going to the party to hang out with your buddies and you would like her to come with you. If she says yes, you're all set.

If she declines the invitation, she shouldn't act sour because you just took her out on a proper dinner date that weekend. Do NOT say one word about dancing because you will NOT be dancing with ANY girls at the party. That is disrespectful and disloyal to your girlfriend.

BTW, you said you "...do NOT plan on cheating." But you admit you are going to a party to drink, be stupid and dance with girls. What do you think is going to happen when you drink and your are around a bunch of pretty girls? You are seriously putting yourself at risk. You better think this through.

If she mentions the party between now and Christmas, tell her you were invited, but it's too far away to bother with right now. You don't know if you're going. Then after your weekend date, you "suddenly" remember the party.

Anonymous · Answer

Mmm....it's a toughie.had you just wanted to go to a party then that would be fine,but as you have been invited and she hasn't then I wouldn't go! So rude that the host knows her and knows that you are an item but only extends invite to you?... What kind of knob does that? I wouldn't consider this person a true friend unless of course it's a guys only thing then fair enough, but anything else ....don't go!

Should I go to a party if my girlfriend cannot go?

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