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Have I been "cyber dumped" and why does it hurt?

This is probably so stupid, but I want to know if others feel this way. I have made an (email) friend, actually through this site. He answered one of my questions and I picked his as the best answer and he emailed me. We started emailing back and forth and I thought were becoming real friends. I flirt with him some, but I know that's all it will ever be since we live in different countries. Well, recently he hasn't been emailing me, and when i asked about it, he said he was working 2 full time jobs now and just doesn't have time to do much of anything. We happened to catch each other on instant messaging one day and he was sick that day. I sent him an ecard wishing him well. That's been over a week, maybe 2, and I haven't heard from him at all since then. He didn't acknowledge my card, and he hasn't sent any off line messages or anything. Nothing.........BUT.. he's been on this site within the last couple of days, so I know he's had a little time to at least check emails and get on line..

I feel so hurt. I feel like he has "cyber dumped" me. I know it's stupid to feel so hurt by someone I don't even know, but I do. Has this happened to any of you? And why do you think this has hurt me?

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  • Marina
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    This is the nature of the internet. People will talk to you on email or IM for a while, even being very personal and "deep". Then they are gone and don't come back. They have moved on.

    You're hurt because you weren't aware that this is the most common, everyday occurrence that happens to 99.9% of people on internet. Just accept it, don't take it personally, if you talk to anyone else, understand that they will probably vanish sooner or later, and don't pursue them. Just enjoy the convo while it lasts.

    I hope you will feel better very soon, this is not about you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You're getting all bent out of shape when really...you don't need to. Maybe it's exactly as he says and the only time he spends on here now is in the mornings over a cup of coffee. Even then, he doesn't have a lot of time except to randomly browse on the PC for a few minutes. Most of the time he's tired from working 2 jobs and just because he doesn't acknowledge your e-mails or anything doesn't mean he is ignoring you. Remember, he's a friend you met on a site that you chat with, that's it for now and maybe always will be. Friends come and go in our life and some we hold on to for a long time and others go in a short period of time. They come in our life for a reason whether it be long term or short term. Accept it for what it is. Someone who understands what you have gone through and someone who is willing to try and answer some of your hurts. You don't need to feel so hurt....he's not trying to hurt you but to just be your friend....but ...he just doesn't have the time to be available as much as you would probably like.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well, I have been more than cyber dumped and since im a girly girl..well...my feelings get hurt easily. I have been sexually assaulted on the internet, been trash talked about on the internet i have facebook and myspace www.myspace.com/lovepet910

    I have been called swear words on facebook on the bathroom wall and simply writing letters to each other on the internet or aol with hutrful messages that will always bruise me. I am a small girl 5 foot 5 and 76 pounds so yeah, i really know what it feels like even in school its worse the teachers even bully me, by accusing me of things i never did and to top it off i have been diagnosed with scholiosus. Btw, this wont hurt you in my opinion it will make you stronger as it has done to me, go out there meet new DOWN TO EARTH friends forget about those jealous losers because they have nothin on you, be who you wanna be and nobody else, you never know what you could become.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    happened to the best ever, u never know, his computer might have broke down, or he just travelled to another country and didnt settle in, or he might have been attacked by a bunch of killer bees!!, u never know, the best thing is that u didnt hear, see or meet him, at the worst case he could be a chick, i mean that u never actually saw him, u loved his words, not him

    or his girl friend just caught him and thought u were flirting with him and then she killed him,lol

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