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Am I too intimidating to date?
I'll admit that I haven't made the best decisions with dealing with men in my past. I also admit to having my heart broken a couple of times. So needless to say I have a guard up around my heart. I'm wondering is this backfiring against me. Mainly because I may unknowingly give off a 'don't want to be bothered' type vibe. Which I try not to. I try to be nice and friendly towards guys. But at the same time I think back on my past negative experiences. Next thing you know, my heart is guarded again. I want to know how to overcome this, because it's been a long time since I've been asked out on a date, and this issue is likely the reason. I don't want every man that approaches me to think I'm mean and bitter. At the same time I don't want to push potential good ones away. Help!
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Wow. That's a pretty awesome realization, isn't it? Good for you. Honestly, I have a lazy-sounding answer: Consider talking to "someone" (therapist). I don't think you "need therapy." But therapists are educated and trained to help you come up with ways to overcome this. The biggest thing is, you realized it! But now you need to have some tools to combat it, challenge it, deal with it earlier in the process, and eventually overcome it altogether, and I think a therapist (just a few sessions, perhaps!) would be the most effective way to do that.
Good luck to you.
