Fiance's COLD FEET PART 2?

Take him with you to talk with your doctor. Anything YOU say will only make him feel like you are pacifying or patronizing him. Let your Dr. tell him how this happened. It's one of those unfortunate things in life/pregnancy & I'm sorry you are having to do this. But you need to get his fixed now, before it escalates further.

We think of men being the stronger sex, but I think that might be physically.

I know one man who refuses to have sex with his wife because they lost a baby, which is understandable. They are in therapy.

I know another couple who is having trouble because she had a terrible birthing experience & doesn't want to get her pregnant again.

Life has a way of showing us just how fragile we are.

Good luck & the best to you.

You really need to sit down with him alone and have a long heart to heart with him about this.

Let him know once and for all that you do not blame him for your health problems and you don't regret getting pregnant, etc. That you love him and your child.

With being a CNA (Certified Nurse Assistant) I know what stress can do to someone who is sick, it can make it worse and the recover takes longer.

Plus my fiance' that I have been with for 6 yrs and have 2 beautiful daughters together with has a disc problem and going to go paralyzed eventually and he use to not talk about it and there would be stress in our relationship almost throw us apart because he thought I shouldn't be with him since one day he wouldn't be able to walk anymore. I let him know I will love him no matter what. We now talk about it and it has made us closer and we are now getting married on 9-8-07

I wish you and your fiance' the best of luck and a beautiful wedding and you recover from your kidney problems

Men has different ways of coping and dealing with stress. Men tend to keep their feelings a secrets and hold tehir pain because "boys are not suppose to express feelings". This create even more trouble because men become distant, detached and uninvolved.

You can tell him that you are a team and that is not your fault what happenen. Tell him that you are OK and taken care of and that there is no reason to be concerned. Tell him that you can deal with this as a family and that he shouldn't blame himself. Tell him that his reaction towards the unexpected condition is hurting you. Tell him that you feel rejected by his behavior because you feel that he's pulling away. Tell him (and tell him the truth!) that you feel that he's getting cold feet

Please talk in a non-accusatory and non-histrionic manner. YOu have to get to the bottom of this.

Good luck

I think you two should set aside some time to talk, and make this a weekly thing. I know it's hard when you have a child, but one of the biggest problems most relationships face is lack of communication. The best advice I have ever received came from my mom who told me that if she knew than what she knows now, she would have worked on her relationship from day one. Relationships need constant attention and communication is vital. Make it something nice for the two of you, sit down for dinner, or even just desert. I wish you lots of luck!

Time to get firm with him and put your foot down hon. When you both get home, go for a walk, or sit down one more time. Tell your husband that this is hurting you. Tell him that you understand how he feels, but he did NOT do this to you. Tell him that in a month, you're going to be bonded together for life, and you love him dearly and you're in this together. Tell him it is not right to avoid you because he feels guilty - but it's a time to bond together and fight this, and be a team. Tell him how much you love him and need him to make your way through life together. Be firm, and look him in the eye. Perhaps he should go with you to the appointment next time and maybe the doctor can speak with him and ease his mind. I truly wish you the best of luck with this.

You need to listen to the fact that he's having second thoughts about marrying you. Maybe he's just not ready. If you pressure him into getting married, you'll only end up as a divorced-single mother. Then you'll be less desirable to someone else. My advice to you is to back off and let him marry you when he's ready.

You have to take it easy and ask yourself why he is reacting like this. Why does he stay away when the only to resolve it is to work together! I think he fears the fact that he might get stuck with the kid if anything happens to you. I think you 2 need to see a counsellor who is trained for these situations. He needs to bond with the baby and be there for you. Just dont allow him to disappear like he is now.

Guys are practical creatures. Find him or show him the medical evidence that your kidney trouble isn't directly linked to your pregnancy. Take him with you to the doctor and get a direct explanation.

Hope you are okay!

He's probably not ready for marriage.

he just worried because he think he ruined your life and you need to seat him down an tell him you love and that if having and loving the baby and loving and having him you could be sick for the rest of your life