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I was friends with benefits with a woman for about a year. I have not been lucky financially and had to lean on her financially as a result. 

I told her up front that I was struggling financially and could not afford to take her on dates or buy her anything. I offered some company and intimacy which she seemed okay with as she was going through a hard time emotionally (she had just separated from her cheating husband). We saw each other once or twice a month and would have light conversation most days.

I admit that i asked her for support a few times and she did help with bills, car rides, groceries and day to day costs. She also got me a job and ran errands for me. She was helpful tbf. But after a few months she started to complain and would occasionally bring up things she had done for me. She even once sent me a text detailing how much she had spent versus how much I had. She said that I had spent £4 and she had spent £4000. Rude! Clearly she was keeping score. She also used to cyber stalk me, my friends and ex on Instagram. 

She eventually ghosted me after I asked her to help me to buy a new computer. No conversation, no argument, no nothing. She changed her number and came off social media. So I had no way to contact her. I stopped trying after a week. After a few months she's back on social media and i have a feeling she would want embarrass me on there. I also think she is still looking at my profile. 

What should I do? 

No judgemental answers please!

I was friends with benefits with a woman for about a year. I have not been lucky financially and had to lean on her financially as a result. 

I told her up front that I was struggling financially and could not afford to take her on dates or buy her anything. I offered some company and intimacy which she seemed okay with as she was going through a hard time emotionally (she had just separated from her cheating husband). We saw each other once or twice a month and would have light conversation most days.

I admit that i asked her for support a few times and she did help with bills, car rides, groceries and day to day costs. She also got me a job and ran errands for me. She was helpful tbf. But after a few months she started to complain and would occasionally bring up things she had done for me. She even once sent me a text detailing how much she had spent versus how much I had. She said that I had spent £4 and she had spent £4000. Rude! Clearly she was keeping score. She also used to cyber stalk me, my friends and ex on Instagram. 

She eventually ghosted me after I asked her to help me to buy a new computer. No conversation, no argument, no nothing. She changed her number and came off social media. So I had no way to contact her. I stopped trying after a week. After a few months she's back on social media  and i have a feeling she would want embarrass me on there. I also think she is still looking at my profile. 

What should I do? 

No judgemental answers please!

So I dated a woman who turned out to be crazy and materialistic. She looked down on me because I didn't have as much money as she does. I was completely honest with her and told her at the beginning that I couldn't afford to take her on dates or buy her anything material. I told her that I could offer her conversation and listening ear. She told me that she was happy with that and was okay to take the financial lead and pay my way and help me out financially. But a year or so she started to complain about me using her and would bring up things she had done for me. She brought up that I hadn't even bought her a chocolate bar while she was paying my bills. I felt so emasculated. She clearly wants a man to show off with.

Later in the relationship she started to spy on me, my friends and ex on social media. She would not comment or message just look. I still don't know why. Then out of nowhere she stopped talking to me. No conversation no nothing. I contacted her so many times but no response. After a week or so I stopped. Her social media went really quiet, no posts no updates. It was this way for a few months. But now she is back on it. I have a strong feeling she is watching me but I have no way to prove it so put my page on private. But do you think there is anything else I should do. Should I contact her or message her. 

What would you do?