Women, what is the help you'd expect from others to reduce your workload?

What is meant by "workload"? Do you mean household chores? 

Yes, certainly, all members who live in the household (and therefore contribute towards the work buildup: i.e. dirty clothes in need of laundering, dirty dishes in need of scrubbing, etc.) should be expected to pitch-in to some degree or another. Children may help out with chores appropriate for their age. Adults can divvy-up the work in a way that is reasonable to them. 

Only members who actually reside in the house should be expected to help out. 

im not married but if i was it would be whatever help i would need

Sadly, women are ALWAYS EXPECTING, but are not necessarily pregnant.

I have always worked outside the home and am a wife and mother.  I never got any help and so, realizing I was on my own, I organize my time well and work hard.

There are a lot of women out there who can "expect help" all they want, but realizing it is different.

Women's workload is usually artificial or self induced. I was a single dad, raised 4 girls, while working a 44 hour week with a long commute. I managed all the home, daddy, and work chores, and still had time for dating. Women don't volunteer or take the lead at work, so their job workload is less than men's. Women always have men share in school activities and child care, so their time involvement here usually is minimal. Especially in kids sports. Organized cleaning, cooking, laundry, and grounds care shouldn't take more than a couple of hours a day, unless you just pretend and go through the motions, instead of accomplishing tasks.  If you need your workload eased, you need to organize and compartmentalize. You don't need and couldn't even use "help". You need to help yourself, by doing instead of complaining and posturing.

If you got it out, you put it back.

If you wore it, slept on it, or dried with it, you wash it.

If you slept in it, you make it.

If you got it dirty, you clean it.

If you spill, you wipe up.

Take your dishes in, rinse, and put in the dishwasher or set to soak.

When it's your turn or assignment to take out trash, unload the dishwasher, or wash pots and pans, do it now.

Basically, if every member of the household is responsible for their own behavior, including things within the household, the workload for the person with the final responsibility is substantially lightened.

It also means some hard lessons, like your kid or husband having no clean underwear when they need it, or dinner cannot be prepared because there are no clean pans. Adults can be particularly unpleasant about this kind of thing.