Is drinking fri-sunday normal?

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So here goes. My husband for a while now will drink friday, saturday and sundays in his garage. And the days he does he drinks to get drunk like pass out. Also when he drinks he is on his phone at the same time. I don't know if he is texting someone or what. Why is he doing this? What can I do to fix this?

Janet · Accepted Answer

Your husband has a drinking problem. Their is nothing YOU can do to fix this.
You either can learn to live with it, relax and not be bothered by it, or your discontent will end up damaging the marriage, probably to the point of a divorce.  But most people end up wanting TO divorce an alcoholic partner anyway.

Sounds like it is bad-enough that it has become an addiction, or is close to it.  Your husband is deeply unhappy and rather than facing and coping with his unhappiness, he tries to blot it out with alcohol. Right not it is only on the weekends.He is slowly killing his brain and his liver cells, and by the time it becomes bad-enough to be noticeable, it will be too late.How long CAN he go without having a drink?  If he cannot go for 3 months without any alcohol .. he has a problem. At the least, he probably has become physically addicted and needs to be monitored in a rehab-detox center to break the addiction.  The recovered alcoholic cannot ever take a drink again, if they want remain unaddicted.But usually physical addictions are caused by a psychological addiction: the person is unhappy or lacks skills for handling with their stress and emotions, so they "self-medicate" with alcohol.  So most alcoholics must not only go through the phsyical withdrawal .. they have to get psychological therapy, and it can take years for them to not want a drink anymore.

As far as him texting someone, I wouldn't worry.  Few women want an alcoholic as their lover or partner, so he's not in danger of attracting women.  He's probably just discontented with his life, and himself .. and rather than fixing himself he distracts himself with alcohol and the fantasy of going onto dating websites.

? · Answer

He has a problem that needs treatment and intervention:

The fact that alcohol kills three million people worldwide EVERY year, making alcohol the cause of 5.3% deaths annually. So 1 in every 20 deaths worldwide is caused by alcohol-related disease, injury, accident, murder, or suicide. Is generally avoided by those that are in the grip of addiction. Avoidance of reality is part of the disease.

kswck2 · Answer

You might get a better answer if you ask HIM.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely not normal. 
Give him a choice: 
You or alcohol ..

Is drinking fri-sunday normal?

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