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Do I need permission from my wife to watch my granddaughter for an hour?
As many of you know my daughter gave birth to my first biological granddaughter about 3 weeks ago. Mom and baby have gone home after her c-section so it's now just me and the wife here. As you know, we're both working from home right now. Today my daughter text me asking if I could watch the baby for about an hour so her and her roommate could go a mile down the road to the nail salon and get their nails done. She doesn't want the baby in there with all the fumes and things. I told her sure. I also told her I go to lunch at 1. She said she'd feed and change her prior to them arriving and that she'll probably sleep the entire time. Typical newborn stuff. When I told my wife that the baby would be coming over for about an hour this was her response.
"I know you like to jump and say yes to everything your daughter asks so she can do this and that but how long do you think she'll be gone. It can't be all afternoon because we gotta work. I assume your lunch break is at 1 but how will this work once you/we are back at work and she starts crying or needs a diaper change?"
Last I checked "we" aren't keeping her, I am. She's 3 weeks old not 3 years old running around getting into things. Now my wife's sons, my step-sons, can come multiple times during the day interrupting her and it's not an issue. But when my daughter comes by then she's now all of a sudden worried about "our" jobs.
Do I really need her permission to watch my granddaughter for an hour?
@ Pegatha,
The wife wasn't having a bad day. She was sitting at her desk working. I love how every time I ask a question most p[people seem to think I'm wrong because she's having a bad day. If I had that many bad days I'd find another less stressful job. If one of her sons comes by in the middle of the day she'll stop working and talk with them but me watching my granddaughter on my lunch break is a problem.
@Seedy,
Ditched, really? That's a bit extreme don't you think? She's going to get her nails done and doesn't want the baby in the shop with all the fumes.
6 Answers
- ?Lv 71 month ago
You keep putting a different spin on this same situation. The reality is this: Your wife is getting sick of you enabling your daughter to be an irresponsible parent. You've driven the baby's dad away and are trying to act as its father yourself. This is a twisted situation and while normally you should be able to babysit your grandchild, the fact that you're neglecting your spouse so you can play some weird version of house with your daughter would irritate even the most understanding wife.
- Anonymous1 month ago
Based on your other questions on this relationship, WHY did you marry this woman in the first place, WHY are you still married, WHY if your daughter has the time/energy/money to get her nails done is she living with you? And, yes, apparently you need your wife's permission to do anything (and that probably includes using the bathroom). Your choices are (1) live the way you live; OR (2) grow a pair.
- seedy historyLv 71 month ago
I don't think you need permission!
I don't know any women who ditched their 3 week old infant to go run with gfs for nail treatments. I can see why your wife thinks it'll definitely be longer than an hour.
- PegathaLv 71 month ago
I think you need to figure out what's really going on.
Is this just a one-off for your wife, because she was having a bad day? Or does she feel that you're too indulgent to your daughter in general? And if so, is there any truth to that? Or, on the other hand, is she chronically jealous of or resentful of your daughter? It could be any of those, or something else entirely, but we don't have enough information to know.
