Hating my life, please help?

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I am 24 years old and for the past 2 years I’ve really hated my life. I work in an office 8 hours a day 5 days a week (with my suit, tie, and face mask on), it’s an awfully hard and boring job, I wish I could just leave here and get a fun job with shorter shifts that isn’t so hard, it’s so miserable. When I get home, I have plenty of chores to do that leave me with no free time. My weekends are also awful, I don’t work on weekends, but I have other chores to do that leave me with little to no free time. All of my friends/family are always too busy to hang out with me, which makes me so lonely and sad. I get super envious when I see pics of my little nephews doing fun things with their parents (my brother and sister-in-law), like wearing costumes, playing at the park, and doing all sorts of family fun stuff (they live in another state, so I can’t hang out with them). It just upsets me and makes me really want to be my nephews’ age again. My life is nothing but disappointment, full of daunting responsibilities, and horribly boring. I literally cry hard every day because of this, I am in so much mental pain. Why do I have to have such a painfully boring life with absolutely no fun/play?! I also have a lot of sick/dying family members, making me even more miserable! I am a kid-at-heart and long to have a fun and awesome life again (that’s the way it was until about 3 years ago). Right not, I’m hurting so bad mentally. Someone, please help me and tell me what to do! ;,(

? · Accepted Answer

First, I would suggest seeing a psychologist or a psychiatrist. They could help you figure out the best course of action for mental health. From what it sounds like, you may need antidepressants but I'm just basing that off of my own experience. I would set up an appointment with either doctor because they can determine how to help make you happier. They can also help you with coping mechanisms and strategies for dealing with loneliness and sick family members. Second, if you're so miserable in the job you have now, find a better job that fits your fun personality. Life is too short to work at a job you hate. Find a job that makes you smile and that doesn't feel like actual work because you love it so much. Lastly, if you are looking for someone to have fun with, try making friends at work who have personalities similar to yours, join a club or group in your area, or try joining a Facebook group that does things you enjoy. I know personally that the journey will be hard and you may never feel completely happy, but with the proper help you will get there. Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

You have more options than you realize.  It sounds like the biggest problem might be you live in a restrictive state where the pandemic is concerned.  (I assume you realize there's a lot of difference among the states).  I can't imagine having to wear a mask 40 hours a week.  Anyway, if this is true, leave and find a better state.  Do you have any friends or relatives who would put you up until you're on your feet?  Once there, find a fun job like working in a sports bar or bar with live music, etc.  You'll make good money & you'll meet people.  You're the perfect age for this, because you can do it as long as you want and take time to think about whether you'd want to take a certification (or even grad course) to pursue a different path.  I would do this in a heartbeat if I was as miserable as you are.

d j · Answer

Please be strong.

You're in a transition from a care free student life to the real world.

It can overwhelm you but it won't be like this forever.
Gradually you would be able to handle work and chores together.

Also, don't make you life revolve around your job. No one can stop you from having any fun.

Try to figure out how you can include some activity other than your job that you can look forward to for whole week. Also, find a way to do some chores during the week itself so that you're mentally and actually free on the weekends to relax.

You need to spend some time in socialisation too.

Hating my life, please help?

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