Should I continue or should I give up?

Question

I've been single for 5 years now. Each relationship has left its mark and each mark is clearly visible. Although I have gotten over the past relationships, the scars changed my life in certain ways.

I've been on this dating site for several months and found a few good connections. Sadly, all the connections have fizzled out apart from one.

This one connection has been good and solid for some time. From the very beginning I had this feeling, like butterflies, about her. It's been 5 months now that we've been chatting and although she's a bit far away, I'm willing to travel to her and meet. However, she says she would like to meet but always has an excuse why she can't.

We have good conversations over the phone, texting only, and everything seems great although every conversation is initiated by me otherwise we don't chat.

She says she likes me and all that but I get the feeling that she's trying to get me to lose interest in her without saying it. To be honest, the feeling I've had has started getting weaker and weaker and I'm at the point where I need a constructive answer from someone.

Should I be patient and continue chatting with the hope of meeting her, in time, or should I give up and end the chats and move on?

Glass · Accepted Answer

She has no intention of meeting you. I think deep down you know this already. Chasing a dead end is an excuse to avoid going back in to the dating pool. Stop talking to her and move on for good. Most of the people you talk to on dating sites are going to be wrong for you. You need a higher tolerance for rejection and higher standards if you are going to meet people this way.

Anonymous · Answer

I used dating websites, but I gave up on it a long time ago.

Dan82828384 · Answer

Time to break it off or talk to her and ask her how she really feels. She may just be stringing you along.

? · Answer

It's been 5 months. If two people like each other it doesn't take 5 months to meet. Cut your losses. There's a reason why she's giving you the run-around and it's likely one of three:
1. She isn't who she says she is
2. She's enjoying the attention but isn't really interested in you, or ready for a relationship
3. She's already in a relationship or she's pursuing other options

Steve · Answer

She’s snowing you. Give up if you want a real relationship with her. If you’re satisfied with chatting, carry on.

ez2tock2 · Answer

When it comes to Social Media, I'm CONTACT with 15 to 20 girls.
I'm a conversationalist, most find me NOT BORING and Interesting.
Outside of them, I date 3 other women, who live closer to me.

I could careless what women are looking for, 
My Job Is to Make Them LIKE Being Around and Engaging ME.

I don't have time for INSECURITIES.  When 5 is busy, there is still the others.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd give up if I were you. NO reason in chasing someone who isn't interested in reciprocating at all. Plus she keeps putting off meeting. 5 months is too long to waste.

Should I continue or should I give up?

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