Me and my mum don t have a relationship because of my 17 year old sister and I don't know what to do?

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Basically I want to have a relationship with my mum, I live with my dad and sister, I m 19years old and my sister is 17. Caitlin s always been a mummy girl and with that me feeling left out from mum I was just a daddy s girl, mum is always ringing caitlin all the time and she never rings me it s always me ringing her, when ever she s down to visit us as she lives 300-400 miles away she s always hanging with caitlin then I tell her I m feeling left out and she always says hang with me and Caitlin but I don t want that I want to be able to hang with my mum just me and her. Last year in August she promised that when I go up me and her can hang out together just me and her, October came and we went up and I reminded her but not once did she bother :/ this is why I have a closer relationship with my younger half sister jasmine (10years) 
I just don t know what to do I m running out of ideas, mum isn t even trying and I m trying my hardest. I m just lost on what to do :(

Anonymous · Answer

Okay, I understand what you are going through. So, try these options. Caitlin should spend the weekend with her friends and you should get a ride up to see your mom while she is there. That way you can hang out with your mom and Catlin is busy, so she won't be there to grab all the attention from your mom that you need. If your 10 year old sister is not a problem, maybe she can also spend time with her friends for a couple of days, that way your mum will have just you to bond with.  If you know how to do something that your mum is not aware of that you can do, then surprise her with that or maybe the two of you can cook a lunch or dinner together and just enjoy each others company.

Pearl L · Answer

you cant make her spend time with you alone, its her loss if she dont, not much you can do about it

Me and my mum don t have a relationship because of my 17 year old sister and I don't know what to do?

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