I saw that my wife was texting some other guy...?

Married just six months and she is "sext-ing" some one else?

Then she lies on top of it?

Okay: Let's do the math here:

1 - (she's unfaithful) PLUS

2 (she's disrespectful) PLUS

3 (she's a liar & not even a very good one!)

EQUALS

Get out...get out now!!

What you do is up to you. Since you have a kid, I'd suggest marriage counseling and making it clear to her that if you find any other inappropriate behavior of hers with another guy (or gal), the marriage is over. She lied when she said it was 'a test'. That was just a bad story to cover her behavior. Only married 8 months and she's already behaving badly. That doesn't bode well for the future of your relationship.

Why would she be thinking that you don't love her? Take a moment for that. Of course her behavior seems inappropriate.. but what has your behavior been like that a newly wed woman with an infant in arms wonders if her husband loves her?

I think the two of you need sit down and design a marriage together that allows for you both to feel loved, cherished and smart as a couple making choices together.

She didn't do it to test you or because of you at all. Whatever reason she had for doing it could have been addressed by something else -- talking to you, for instance. Tell her this hurt your feelings for her more than anything, and personally, I would file for divorce. You've been married less than a year, so if she's having trouble now, it's not very likely she'll stay faithful for the rest of your lives.

That's definitely cheating. May be a physical or just mental one. She blamed you in a sense. Classic defense mechanism. I'd beat that a*# but obviously u can't. So then I'd take her phone away. Or atleast texting and Web. Then counseling (she needs it) and don't let her blame u. Whether she feels unloved or sad or bllaa bllaaaa... it an excuse to cheat.

woo thats not write for her to do that..especially married and with a baby. if she has to go that far or claiming to go that far to see how much you love her, she needs to get her insecurities checked out. there is no excuse to talk about sexual things with another man. especially texting a man secretly. that is inapropriate, i would have a seriouse talk with her about that. I'm a women and that is disrespectful.

Don't believe that she was testing you, thats bull....she trying to cover up, thats something serious.

Ask her why she needs to go to the other guy for texts. Ask what he's providing that you aren't. Ask how you can get in on it.

Listen to her talk and go from there.

sounds like she is trying to cover it up. No normal person would go behind their partners back and have sexual convos with another man. I personally think you will get hurt of you don't sort out anything with her. you need to make her realize that you know what is going on. if she asks for an explanation, don't give her one, she will feed off you attempting to explain. just ask her why she thinks it is okay to talk to another man like that, I would also ask her why she doesn't talk to you like that (If she doesn't already). Either way man, something fishy is going on, don't let her **** you over.

Im so sorry my friend...

You will have to sit her down and talk to her. She will probably keep denying it.

(Perhaps it is time to spice it up in the bedroom so all the things she desires from this man she will get from you and then she wont need to find this sexual attention somewhere else...)

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