I feel like me and my family are drifting apart?

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Let me explain the dynamics of my family first so you guys can get a better picture of  what the issue is. Growing up me/my mom/my 2 younger sisters were always close, there wasn't any problems between us growing up.

However I think the issues started when I went away to college at 17 and my two younger sisters were at home. They bonded heavily and we all didn't keep in touch as much as we did growing up, which is normal I suppose due to the fact I was 10 hours away at college.

Anyways they both moved out to another city, and they pushed me to move out there as well. I thought things were going good once we moved out, we would all meet up 2x a week (my 2 brother in laws included) and everything was good that way. 2 years later they both moved out to another town (10 mins from where Im at) and they live 2 blocks away from each other.

They see each other almost every day, wheras I see them maybe once a week to once every 3 weeks (depends on things). Whenever I'm out there it seems they have this tight knit circle and they are always chatting about whats going on in their lives etc, and I feel like I'm out of the loop with things. I do try to engage in conversations with them but its met with one worded replies or just all around rudeness ie just recently my sister told me "dont chime in on conversations"

Jane · Accepted Answer

I hope you told your sister that was a very hurtful thing to say.  I think if you want to feel more included with them or spend more time with them, you should bring it up to the directly.

James Blackley · Answer

Things have been rocky with us for quite some time! I have to admit I'm not the best problem solver and I tend to turn ice cold when I get upset. There was a pretty big blow up last weekend where I had enough of their treatment, when they bit my head off at me for no reason I coldly shut down and walked away. One of my sisters told me this "The only reason I speak to you is so you don't get sassy with me" (her words) and my brother in law threatened that if I got upset with them again that I would never see my sister, him and my newphews again.

I'm at a loss on what to do because I have tried speaking to them and they typically put the blame on me, I'm also tempted to walk away 100% from all of them too but at the same time I also don't want to hurt any of them either.

Thoughts anyone?

I'm at a loss on what to do because I have tried speaking to them and they typically put the blame on me, I'm also tempted to walk away 100% from all of them too but at the same time I also don't want to hurt any of them either.

Thoughts anyone?

George · Answer

I know is hard because we kind of miss our chilhood. Seeing everybody together .try to become the one that trows a bbq party here and than .sit everybody on you table but dont forget to invite god sit him on your family table too. Let him bless your family!

Pearl L · Answer

its probably cause they spend so much time together since the live close, maybe you should move near where they are so you can live closer to them

I feel like me and my family are drifting apart?

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