Is it selfish and petty of me to desire a pretty lady in my life?

who cares whether it is selfish or petty? u care whether a good looking woman would want a loser like u. I do not see any reason why. so my sincere advice - contact the crazy cat lady and make a sanctuary for cats. but as u see - u do not even know whether she is pretty but she already has a contingency on meeting u - u MUST have a ranch in Montana, otherwise u re of no use for her and her cats. so see? a man must have smth for women to want him -. either being gorgeous and young and well endowed - then he marries smth rich and old, or being rich and pleasant and generous - then he will be the one to marry smth gorgeous and well endowed with boobs and a's's

also my husband married me when he was 48 and I was in my 30. but he had lots of qualities I wanted in a man. and I had qualities he wanted in a woman - pretty face, big boobs and perfect a's's. and youth. that didn't come cheap for him

Hey, you sound somewhat like me!!!

do you have a ranch in Montana?

I am a huge cat lover myself and I want to create a sanctuary for cats

and some dogs too, or even farm animals like the Gentle Barn in California

I wish I had the money to create it and have employees or volunteers to help me out

with saving the animals!!!

I don't socialize much either but I don't feel pity for myself

I don't like humans that much

I have never been married nor had any children

and I don't want to marry or have kids

my kids are my cats and a dog I recently rescued

I connect with them much better!!!

I have been single and celibate for 10 years

and I hate working for money.

I want to spend my time volunteering for animals and people in need

and also TRAVEL the globe

I want to feel FREE and unrestricted

I haven't had ANY luck with men

I had 2 boyfriends all my life

and I have never enjoyed good sex

I don't even know what an orgasm feels like

with a man

(I have them with my finger only LOL)

I am not from the USA though

and I am also looking for a non smoker, non drinker

and non religious (but spiritual) HANDSOME man

around 30-45

I am a vegetarian btw

No you are not selfish or petty

Everybody is entitled to have DREAMS

but you are right Hope is sometimes an obstacle and a curse

I have been depressed and suicidal in the past

because I am deprived of essential needs in my life

like companionship

but My BAD LUCK is not making much progress

I am still hoping with empty hands

Fantasies are what keep me going and attending spiritual courses

doing energy healing, and my ANIMALS

They are my best friends, and spirit guides

I feel that I am supposed to meet my Twin Flame

that's why it's been so hard to spot him out!!

He is rare.

So I don't know... I wish you PROSPERITY and PATIENCE

NO, don't for a moment give up on yourself. There IS a special someone out there for us all. You just so happened to pick the wrong ones. I too have been divorced a couple times. The first one definitely due to the fact I got married far too young. The others were due to alcoholism. I'm now a 25 yr.sober alcoholic. married other alcoholics. None of these marriages worked out for diffeerent reasons, but still all due to drinking. I've since met someone I've now been with over 25 yrs. We bro't up marriage in the beginning, I just was not ready to get married again so/too soon. We never bro't it up again. Howrver, we've now been together that length of time. No relationship is "perfect" we've had our ups & dowms a couple times, worked thru it, have now made it OVER 25 yrs now & I'm not going anywhere, nor does he want me to. I'm SURE there too is a special someone out there just for you. You could do as I've done it ended up in happiness. Get yourself out & about so you can find & meet this person meant for you. as I did, there's NO reason you cannot end up as I have. just keep in your mind there IS a special someone for each of us, that also includes you...best to you...:)

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Low self esteem is a turn off . Get your shyt together if you expect to bag a hot piece of azs .

I didn't even get married until I was 40 and so am quite certain 40 is not the end of the road .

Oh ,,,, and Montana has like 5 months of winter . Nice at times but 5 months of cold does nothing for me .

It's ok to like more attractive women, however the older you become the younger the women you will need, to sustain your desire for younger women. It's hard to ignore younger women.

It will be difficult for you not to be with younger women especially if you have been with them before. Don't become to attach to them. Don't date the same young women long because you become too attach. Date more than at the same time if you want to continue to be married.