Why do married woman refuse sex with husband and than cheat.?

In a good marriage, of which there are many, the people in the marriage do not play all these games. We aren't in this for the 'big diamond ring' or kids or anything like this. I also am not sure why these questions are only being addressed to women? There are two in a marriage...

In a good marriage they are great friends and lovers working to build a life together. The sex only slows or stops temporarily during times such as illness, accident, very young children (as both are exhausted), emergencies, high stress times, etc.

I have been married for 27 years to my very best friend. We still share an active sex life. We have raised kids together, we have built a lovely life together. We enjoy each other's company over all others as we get along fantastically. I do not need him for money, I contribute as much as he does. When we first married I was the breadwinner actually.

Divorce is high because people, many of them, marry for the wrong reasons, marry too quickly, marry without knowing each other, marry and do not do what's necessary to keep the relationship working well, marry ignoring all kinds of warnings saying do not marry, marry and do not honor their vows, etc., etc.

If you are looking for solutions to something that went badly in your own life do not throw the rest of us in the mix. Also, look at the choices you made and self reflect to figure out your part in the failed marriage.

2

Condemned by all the Uber-feminists who will tell you to do whatever you feel in other circumstances. You have brought up a situation, one worth discussing, not condemnation and personal attacks. Sometimes women, for many reasons, will cut off their husbands. Sometimes there are medical problems, or not enough energy or personal issues going on. Sometimes the wife is just being a vindictive be-ach. So the guy is cut off, not getting any sex, and married. He wants sex, but he made a promise to be faithful to his wife. But she ain't putting out. So what's a guy to do? Most guys just suck it up and go without. Some guys get some elsewhere. Can you really blame them? It's sort of a double standard, don't you think? "I'm not interested in sex any more. You aren't getting sex from me ever again and you can't get it elsewhere. I have decided there will be no more sex for you." Now I don't know if the guy you were getting it on with was actually cut off or not. If he's fooling around on his wife, he's certainly willing to lie to you as well.

you need to wake up to the time mate. True intimacy is all about spending your life together, not about sex . sex is not all its cracked up to be, its messy, gives you infections, lots of stuff. I have been happily married for over 20 years and we have not had sex in years. There is people with health concerns, there is also those that plain just don't like it, males included. To even post about women like this is disrespectful and some women would even deem this abuse so I would watch what you post on here before someone flags and reports you. they are cracking down on stuff on here and you cant just post what you want anymore when its demeaning to the opposite sex and I find this very disrespectful to women in general. Just because a women marries you does not mean that she becomes your sex prostitute. there are plenty of couples, happy couples out there that don't have sex. its an individual thing. I am keeping an eye on the posts here and if I see anything else deemed abusive or demeaning I will have to report it. its just as bad to get on a site like this and demean people as it is to cheat, so you are no better than the people you write about.

dude, why is it that all you men don't understand that women are just made differently? its more important to us to have quality time with you. we do not feel the same about sex that you males do. It does not at all mean that she is refusing sex ect. so you are basically stating that its something you expect, meaning expectation. if my husband did that to me he would be shown the door pronto, with no delay!!! its just as intimate to go for walks in nature as it is to do anything sexually. maybe you are one of those pervs out there that is completely infatuated with sex, doesn't mean that the woman is cheating. there is also nothing wrong with staying home and not working. my husband has pulled in all the income for years and I have never worked a minute. I do things around the house though that compensate for that. why doenst this man buy a blow up doll, those are supposed to be good. just because anyway a woman is not interested in sex does not mean she is refusing or anything else. we are just different creatures and if the man says she is refusing it then maybe hes the jerk for harassing her for it to begin with. I have not had sex with my husband for a long time. he does not like it because he gets friction burn. does not at all mean that I accuse him of refusing sex. if I did that would be bad treatment of him. if you were to step back and look at your posting with an honest glance, what I see is some kind of manipulation. not everybody on this planet agrees with what you say. if my husband did a posting like this it would appear to me hes trying to manipulate somehow. maybe you have a love affair with your male part, that is what the real issue is here. if you are married I feel real sorry for whoever you are with. I certainly would not let my husband treat me like this. seems these days that men don't realize that women are different. we do not have the male

part that you have to have a love affair with. I wish you well anyway in your endeavors. don't be thinking anyway that you are going to get sympathy from women on here. we know better. as for women that cheat, you just never know what the man has been up to too. my husband looked at porn once. I consider that a form of cheating because you are looking at another womens nude body

There are steps you can take to actually build a strong, stable marriage and avoid divorce. Read here https://tr.im/5SaWD

Here are some key steps to apply to your marriage:

- Start by understanding and being informed.

You can never be too informed about tools, methods and studies about building successful marriages. Understand the risk factors like your age and maturity at marriage can determine how successful it will be, the anatomy of an affair and what you can do after infidelity. Understand the success factors like the personal and psychological circumstances that will influence your marriage, what are the tools and approaches available to you in dealing with conflict, and numerous other relevant data. All this information is readily available to you whether through self-help material, through a counselor, support group or other venues. In fact, we have made it our commitment to provide these to you in different formats to help you make the best marriage you can.

The thing is, remember, this is information is not available for you to begin hyper-psychoanalyzing your relationship, yourself and your partner. It's not a matter of spewing trivia for the sake of conversation ' information is there for you to ponder over and internalize to help you transform yourself and your marriage. That includes maturing to such a point that you become more competent in your knowledge but more prudent in approach.

My take is that the marriage is in trouble, the wife feels neglected emotionally and seeks outside for comfort.

and with comfort, sex comes along. It would rarely be about sex alone !! There could be a number of reasons a wife does not want to have sex with her husband : she feels unloved, put down, rejected or whatever and seeks someone outside the marriage who understands her.

Your wife never cheated on you dude, stop your lying and tell the truth, you cheated because you watch too much porn and your wife works goes go school comes home tajes care of your kids and tries to please your ungrateful *** and you are still never happy. All you do is bad mouthing her from day one and go on chat sites and out her down when you are the one who needs some mental help! Grow up pig

Because all people want variety. It's no big deal, it's the way we're made. Someday it will be the norm.

In my 60 years I've never met a woman that did that. You watch too much tv.