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My Mom passed away 5 years ago and since then I've had SEVERE hypochondria. Do I need help?

I am physically healthy other than a self inflicted mild case of borderline hypertension (due to stress), and a well controlled case of H. pylori that just won't go away, but my problem of late is my unhealthy preoccupation with death. I'm 36 and terrified to die young like my Mom, she was only 56. I have seen psychologist (did nothing for me), my husband is more than wonderful, also been to a psychiatrist (don't want to take pills), and most times I can convince myself that I'm happy but I have the most disturbing dreams of death, and people I've known that have long gone. How do I convince myself that I have one life and I should be happy and when it's time to go, then it's time to go. Surely I can't be the only one who fears death?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago
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    You certainly aren't. I feel it is very natural for a person to do so.

    Your mind is extremely powerful, and when those thoughts enter, keep trying to change your thought. It takes some practice, but definitely is doable.

    Remember, we all...each one of us......grieves different when we lose someone we had such great love for.

    I don't believe a psychologist or psychiatrist is of much help in this situation. YOU must come to terms with it, no one else can do it for you. Yes, they can give you guidance and encouragement, but that's it.

    You have nightmares about death because your mind is thinking too often about it. You must try to think positive instead of negative, learn how to block it....and you will. I was barely 20 when I lost my Dad, he was my Hero, my confidante, by best friend.....which shouldn't be; but I would have never disrespected him. It was so extremely difficult..................... >3

  • ok
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Grieving for a loved one, a parent , can take five years or MORE. Regardless of what others might say. You are normal with your thoughts and concerns. Most people go through this , all the questions about death, what happens, what happened to MY loved one, what will happen to ME, etc. IT IS VERY NORMAL and common. It can be excruitiatingly painful.

    I agree with you about the so called 'help' and drugs are placebos and they have no other help.

    So, the ONE method I found helpful to reduce my pain, and help me resovle my questions, fears, anxiety, etc, was EFt, Here is the FREE version you can apply the resistance and basic recipe to your self, according to directions. After that you can decide if you like it and if you need more help, emofree.com, eftmasters.com

    I can say that as I trusted my self , my experience , and did not let anyone say the natural process is 'crazy' or that one needs 'pills' for it, interesting things came out of it. I began to volunteer at places I thought I could help, I began to speak up and do more research about the condition of the cause of death, what I found was more and more outrageous, more an dmore dismay and anger, and unbeleiveable to my ideal version of things I had in my head. but it was important to take the 'red' pill as they said in the movie the Matrix. It helped me see that we need to do more, speak up more, about things that matter, we need to hold people accountable, we need to speak up and say BS to conventional therapy and psychiatry, (Paula J. Caplan'So They Say You are Crazy'..... etc. So, maybe one has to take the blinders off enough at a time, not all at once, to see what 'life is' and then know what to do for oneself an others. It will eventually end up with your own personal spiritual journey , within you, and you will lose the 'shoulds' and just be. I wish you the best. It does get better. You may like @PSYCHICTWINS IDK. FIND YOURS.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

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  • 7 years ago

    thank you

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