Guys won't commit to me?

Question

I have no problem meeting guys or getting asked out on dates… But once me and a guy have gone out a couple times, we're "talking", he seems serious about me, we connect well, and it looks like we're just about to make it official, it all falls apart… it slows down and I eventually move on and then he does. I said I do first because that's usually how it happens… I get confused by the sudden delay and after a few weeks, just start over with someone new. It happens to me all the time! I jump from guy to guy, but rarely ever get a commitment… when all I want is a real relationship and I let them know that from the start, but they just keep saying "eventually" (for months if I allow it). The two most common reasons I can think of is them finding someone they like better or getting over me because we hooked up, but a lot of them stay single for months afterwards and I'm not having sex with them! So what am I doing wrong?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe the problem is in how you select guys.
Perhaps you're more attracted to "doesn't not want a relationship" man than to "I'll let you lock me down" guy.

Try switching things up by getting with someone you normally wouldn't consider. Worst case scenario: You end up single. AGAIN. Terrible, right?
Best case scenario: They really surprise you, and you find something nice.

Teven · Answer

I don&#x27;t think you are doing anything wrong. I was the same way then all of a sudden I met my ex and we were together almost 2 yrs. That&#x27;s just life. If you get in a relationship with every guy you meet then there&#x27;s nothing special about it. You know what I mean? Just keep doing you and when that guy comes along it&#x27;ll happen when you least expect it:)

VirgoPrincess ♍ · Answer

I agree with the answerers here but i also think you gotta be confident in your sexuality. Im not saying you might be lesbian or anything or saying something like being a whore, absolutely no. Its mean you have to be alone and explore your sexuality like what youre most confident in sexually and you know have a little kinky side.

For example, I love to be alone and have a me time but have nice sensual bubble bath and literally lie in there for time..its like giving the guys what you're like behind closed doors without seemingly slutty literally towards them and they will get some chemistry sexually like fantasise you and him...  ;-) wink wink or flirt with them as well like. complimenting their eyes or smile or what you find sexy..etc.

of course its also about meeting the right guys as well, just try not to be too come across too strong as well..

Ross James · Answer

All I can think of at the moment is that you may have some personality flaw, or sexual inhibition that they don't discover right away. You will have to look inward to find the answer to this one. You may e-mail me through the link on my profile and we can discuss further if you have specific questions.

Mommyma · Answer

You need to gain some self-confidence and get secure with who you are. It is not healthy to always be trying to find someone. You need to be happy with yourself, and be content with being alone. Only then will you be ready for a relationship.

Guys won't commit to me?

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