Why does he go for unattractive girls with little substance?

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I've known him for close to a year now and we dated casually in the past, but he never gets too serious with me… I'm not saying I'm the most beautiful girl in the world with the perfect personality, but if you were to see the girls he chooses to date long-term, you would understand. They're ugly ghetto girls who curse and can't seem to hold any type of meaningful conversation, but they're nice to him. A few even have kids. If he matched up to them, I would've moved on long ago, but he's NOTHING like them. He acts that way WITH them and then acts totally different with me. He's polite and intelligent and super sweet kinda shy and we have the deepest conversations. He says he wants to get married and that he really likes me (but won't say love yet), yet he still keeps me at arm's length and spends a lot of his time with those girls instead. For all I know he could be talking the same to them. But anyone could see I'm the most practical choice! What is going on inside his head? I'm so confused!

There's only one girl he's dated in the past who even remotely lives up to my expectations and he said he was young and stupid and messed up with her. That's all he'll say.

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I disagree, but even if that was the truth, why is he dating so far down? He could easily find someone better worth his time, even if it's not me. The girls are trash.

There's only one girl he's dated in the past who even remotely lives up to my expectations and he said he was young and stupid and messed up with her. That's all he'll say.

IMamazing · Accepted Answer

So I have this theory that guys that are in high school and in their 20's only go for whores and sluts; they only want to have fun. Later, when they want to settle down, they choose women that are not ghetto, slutty let alone easy; they will make a good wife.

Rt · Answer

There is a good chance that he thinks you think you are better than him. I had the same problem  with this rich girl that I liked, and im well, not rich. I wasn't really in her class, and even though I thought she might have liked me back I didn't ask her out. Didn't think I would fit in with her people.

Pandora · Answer

You think you are better than others and he obviously knows it.  it is obvious that the other women treat him much better than you do.  You are coming across as quite arrogent here so I can only imagine what you are like in person.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean, If I was that close to you and messed up with you, I surely wouldn't want to make the same mistake. Have you ever asked him why?

? · Answer

Maybe you're just not his type because you think you're better than other people. guys don't like girls like that

Why does he go for unattractive girls with little substance?

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