I never finish with a partner?

Question

I never finish with a man, although I have changed quite pretty of them.
Btw, I am in a good relationship, but it still does not work,although we love  each other and he has no idea of my problem, of course , I also don't dare to say, cause I want to keep him. At the moment, we still don't live in the same town, and I do not see him as much as both of us want, anyway,
When I do it alone, it goes. 
Otherwise, i am doing it every night (alone), and still often have a need daily, sometimes even distrubing during work.
It is quite hard to find a good professional where I live, although I am searching the one.
I've never heared someone would have a problem like this. Appart it looks bizzare itself, it influences my social and working functioning,efificasy, work concentration I can't always pretend to have and headache, toothache, be just tired  or sth. Am I supposed to take some sedative or sth? Ohterwise, I have many good friends and , I would say, as much love as i need...
Any hints maybe?
Thanks for your time!

LadyMerton · Accepted Answer

you are Normal!

most women do not orgasm from intercourse alone they Need their clitoris stimulated during sex-- from sex studies of over 50 yrs so this is not New Information


pelvis.

Myth:

“Normal” women reach orgasm through intercourse.

Fact:

Only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse. A third can reach orgasm with intercourse but need extra stimulation. A third never achieve orgasm during intercourse but can by manual and oral stimulation. Having orgasms by means other than intercourse is a normal variation of female sexuality. In the past, people thought that “mature” women had their orgasms with intercourse; you will sometimes run across an older book that has this view. However, laboratory studies in the 1960’s showed that an orgasm is an orgasm no matter which way you obtain it. How a woman reaches an orgasm has nothing to do with her mental health or emotional maturity.

http://sogc.org/publications/female-orgasms-myths-and-facts/


figure what works for one woman they apply that same method to all the other women they are intimate with, and that’s one of the major problems.
 50-60% of women will never have an orgasm via intercourse and will require clitoral stimulation to climax.
 30% of women will have a reliable orgasm with intercourse.
 10% of women will orgasm with intercourse and could possibly have sequential orgasms.
 5% of women have true multiple orgasms only through intercourse and these women typically find oral sex uncomfortable.


It's also important to recognize that there really isn't such a thing as "vaginal" or "clitoral" orgasms. That terminology was invented mostly by psychologists way back when, before we even had real study on women's sexuality or on human orgasm in general. orgasms happen primarily in our brains and nervous systems, we simply feel the effects in our whole bodies, including our genitals. Women may arrive at orgasm through clitorial stimulus, but that doesn't make that orgasm clitoral. Make sense?

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_cant_orgasm_from_intercourse_and_its_ruining_my_relationship

Anthony · Answer

Miss N,
You did not give your age.  I feel you are perfectly normal.  You are very logical and revealing, and very secure.  More women should open up as you have and shared the desires and needs as you have.

Anthony

I never finish with a partner?

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