How to overcome shyness for a guy?

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Im very shy guy and if a girl talk to me i will usually not keep the focus on her eyes and look other ways as i hate looking people in the eyes or i will blush which i hate its embarrasing.anyway im start freshman year august and want to be in a relationship which i have nvr been im before im 14 years old nd like many girls but dont hv the guts to talk to them or even approach them with a "hi how you doing".Well this summer iv been depressed and think that a female companion will do me much good someone i can text hang with and show love to. I just dont know wat to say or how to not be shy around her pls help! 10 pnts best [=

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I was in your scenario a year ago. I know exactly how you feel. First thing you need to do is always hang around with your guy friends and when a girl jumps in on the conversation chime in a bit. Also when you have a friend in class who is talking to a girl feel free to hop in on the conversation. No need to be afraid of them as they are just human beings my friend.

While I haven't found my so called "female companion" as you say I have a few friends that are girls and my confidence and ability to talk to girls has been sky high. Just be yourself around them and whenever you get the chance DO NOT be afraid to talk to them. Keep your head up man you will pull through.

P.S. High School isn't as bad as they say :)

Anonymous · Answer

My advise, as a girl who was always the shy one in high school... :P Don't try to overcome your shyness to win a girl, do it for you. :) Because when you try to do it to win someone or just ppl in general, it always backfires because ppl always have different likes and dislikes. Even if you're the most popular, outgoing guy there is... there will still be ppl and girls who won't like you and that's THEIR problem. It doesn't mean ANYTHING about you! :)  Love yourself enough to be bold in who you are. You're amazing. God created you with love and care and gave you a great personality. As much as having friends and a significant other might feel like it would help, it's much better to learn to love yourself first and be a whole person yourself because 1) people, no matter how good their intentions or how much they love you, will let you down... it doesn't mean they're bad or you're bad, it just means other humans aren't designed to fix or complete us :) .... also because 2) whole people attract other whole people. If you feel good about yourself and respect yourself, you'll eventually find an amazing girl who loves and respects herself too... and in turn, can love and respect you too. :)
BTW, don't be afraid of eye contact! :) I love when ppl look me i the eyes! lol. Anyway, hope this helps... good luck :)

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Here is a few good websites for your problem of shyness.

http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/20-ways-to-attack-shyness/

http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Shyness

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/shy_tips.html

In my opinion just Find a girl that you know has an amazing personality and try your best to become good friends (if you aren't already) and if you grow to like each other then you can ask her to be your girlfriend (companion). I like you am only 14 but have had quite a bit of experience and fareshare of gf's already. Good luck dude!

Anonymous · Answer

I was kinda like this and it sucks! You feel like it can't change man! But I had an easy time talking to a maybe unattractive friend and getting close with them as a friend and having them do it for you! It sounds bad but if you taste success once it happens every time and your over it

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#1 Social Reprogramming Method : http://SocialAnxiety.uzaev.com/?cRrf

gloria · Answer

Become the funny guy, chicks dig funny guys

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funny works

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me too but not everywhere only one place where she exist

Cesar Vivas · Answer

Idk but tell me when you figure it out cuz I have the same problem

How to overcome shyness for a guy?

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