What is a parent even able to do? Problem teen?

Question

So when you have a teenager who has a bunch of dropkick friends that smoke, drink and do all sorts of stuff instead of going to school, wont come home, thinks they own the place and have the right to do whatever they want, demand money and transport, threaten to leave permanently if they dont get their own way, sneak in friends to trash an entire level of a house for the sake of 'having fun' and dropping all responsibilities, what can a parent do? Is kicking them out the only option left when its destroying the family?

Update:

Actually she's female, 17. Im her sister (19, never caused any trouble) but my parents would never ask for help because she's tearing the family and they feel ashamed about it. She has no gaming consoles or anything, she has a phone but out of her own money so we cant actually take that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I suggest military school as a last resort. If that fails, kick her out.

? · Answer

I've never been in this situation before so I'm not the best to give advice.

Although never again should you behave nicely towards him.
It seems like he's got to the part where the only way to make him learn is by severely punishing him.
I'd call the police, since your son won't even listen to you.

In the meantime try to get him away from friends and take away his possessions and try to teach him right however hard that may be.

Ted C · Answer

You have provided a home and comfort over the years, and should not have to put up with the behaviour you describe ; unfortunately his behaviour away from home will only rebound on him, and there's not much you can do about it if he is so minded. As to the 'rules' while at home, if he thinks they are beneath him, invite him to go and live somewhere else where it suits him, and change all the locks on the doors and the keys to the cars - your rules or he gets out. Any damage to the house report to the police, there's no reason why you should have to put up with this behaviour

Anonymous · Answer

After a ton of trouble. I finally had to have my son locked up for 8 months. Yes he was that out of control, he was 17 years old at the time.

Tough love. I assumed that he would hate me for doing it. But a year or so later he realized I had no choice.  Now we are best friends.  He even thanked me for doing it,
He's now 32 years old has good job, married and grandson.

Anonymous · Answer

Become stern, dont let them think their the boss, ground them and take away items the enjoy, like: Xbox, phone, computer, Ipad, etc, it's the only way they will learn, and if the threaten to leave, tell them you dont care anymore, and that you do your best for them, and their taking advantage.
Dont let them get you down.

What is a parent even able to do? Problem teen?

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