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how do i stop being hard on myself?
so me and my girlfriend noticed that i have been hard on myself and i want to really overcome that bad habit of being hard on myself but i don't know how or what professional or good method that will help me over come of being hard on myself . for example i will be hard on myself like in a way of i will apologize a lot and then another area i have noticed that i'm hard on myself is like i feel at times when i am trying to be too "perfect of a boyfriend." and i have always had the mentality of i want to become the best. i just don't know how to overcome this bad habit i've had for quite sometime and i hope to eliminate this fear. Please anyone with advice or anything i will greatly appreciate it and accept it
GOD BLESS
1 Answer
- 8 years ago
Learning the difference between perfectionism and high standards may set you free. Because perfection is a worthless standard, it is unattainable due to the fact that no human is perfect. It’s virtually impossible to achieve perfection and those who spend time trying to are wasting their time. A better option is to maintain high standards and to learn that good enough IS good enough. You need to make a conscious decision to wipe the words “perfect” and “perfectionism” out of your vocabulary and replace them with words like “best in class”, and “good enough.”
The Bible indicates that an effort to be perfect can prove to be like “chasing the wind.” (Ecclesiastes 4:4, Today’s English Version) Have you tried praying about the matter? Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you…” Paul told us in Romans 10:13 that, “everyone who calls on the name of Jehovah will be saved.” So talk to God in prayer and remember to use his specific name: Jehovah. Also you must ask in faith that he will answer your prayer.—Matthew 21:22
Also for some more practical advice log into http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/, then scroll down until you find the two books called Questions Young People Ask—Answers That Work (Volumes 1 & 2). Click on volume 2 and on page 225 you’ll find a whole chapter titled, “Why Do I Feel That I Have to Be Perfect?”. You can download them and read them for Free.
Source(s): http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/
