My boyfriends ex wont let him see his son?

Some pretty nasty heartless answers above me. Remind me not to go near anywhere they live!

You are quite right in the understanding that in a serious relationship (and from what I read, your relationship is serious), when you take someone on, you take on his family, and to establish a rapport with them as his girlfriend is an essential step in developing the relationship.

I wish I could offer you more hope about meeting your boyfriend's son, but the law in my country England (and presumably yours too) is that no court can stop an intransigent mother denying contact between her child and its natural, discarded father. The law favours women. It is unjust, but the lawmakers, with electoral consent, have decided that injustice should prevail. The women's rights lobby is just too powerful.

I speak as someone who has gone through the mill, and I have not seen my son now since 2001, due to contact denial from his mother and stepfather, who systematically and deliberately alienated him and his older sister against me. I took it to court four times, but in the end there was nothing more the court could do.

I too had the experience of wanting to visit my daughter on her birthday and all I got was "you can leave the present on the step and then you can go". The law in England approves of this sort of behaviour, and indeed most villages have women's groups that encourage it.

The best he can do is to join a Fathers' organisation, such as Families Need Fathers or Fathers 4 Justice, and get some moral and practical support from other victims who have been through it and can offer some tips. Getting a McKenzie friend is one way of saving money in legal fees (solicitors see this as an excellent way to make money, and will stir things up with the other side, citing The Rules to bump up the account).

If I want a family to love, I now have to find a wife of childbearing age (20 years or more younger) and start again. English culture and the British Government militates against this, and I am currently in correspondance with my MP about new rules that mean only those in well-paid secure employment have the right to live with a foreign wife without going into exile, and few British women I could love would contemplate marrying someone 20 years older, except perhaps as a divorce prospect.

In your case, he is more fortunate - perhaps he could start again with you?

This child needs discipline, consistency, and routine. He needs the attention, the love a parent should give to a child. By the sounds of it the mother is truely not giving this to him. That's where the behaviours come in. I understand the mother wouldn't let the father see the child if he brings her to court. But at this point we are looking at whats best for the child in the future. The somewhat negleted home or the loving and caring home. Sure it would be hard, but custody is always an option. The father should be paying child support only. Th need for the child. As far as bills, the mother should. She should be a little more responsible and grow up.

There is family court, they usually have a self help department. Its free, and very easy. The only thing is this process takes a while, so dont do anything crazy and go by the law. At the end u will win, just have patience.

You are such a good person with a big heart. Not! You are just his girlfriend, not his wife. If you were his wife, it still wouldn't be your business. Read the writing on the wall, honey. Obviously! they still have issues, besides their son, that do not include you. Have you considered that it's you that she doesn't want around her son? Bet your bf knows this. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings, not because he is good, but because he probably uses you as the reason why he can't do certain things with her and his son. Don't get caught up in the baby-mama-drama. It's not your issues.

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/YWAdd

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Jeremy Kyle..

This is not your businesss. Best avice: stay out of it.