I'm not sure what to think?

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I'm in the home stretch of a separation, which has been more or less amicable. I was visiting my 3 sons today, and my 13 year old told me that his mom had borrowed his laptop a couple of months ago, and that when she returned it, there were a bunch of animal porn sites in the history. He's never been a liar, so I don't have any reason to not believe him. I'm not sure what to do about this. I don't know if there's anything to gain by confronting her with this. She's a self described compulsive liar, so I really don't know what to believe about her. Are my kids safe with someone who views that kind of stuff?

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It just doesn't sound like a lie, Ade, especially the way he said it, out of the blue. And I'm pretty sure that his character is solid.

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That is just plain unstable, especially when she borrowed her son's laptop to watch it. Pray the best for her, cut your losses clean, and take your children with you!

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I dont know man, im 21 i dont have any children or anything but i think maybe you and only know deep down if they are safe with her, after all you were with her long enough to have a child etc.

Rorydee · Answer

Tell her that if she is going to look at those kinds of pictures, then she needs to delete the history or use a different computer.

You can't control her actions, but you can tell her to keep it away from your child's eyes.

Ade · Answer

Was it repeated over and over? It might have just been curiosity. And, yeah, kids never lie.

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Defenetly not. She may show it to them when there older, or worse even now.

I'm not sure what to think?

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