Does other daycare providers.....?

no other daycare providers do not buy toys for children that come to there day care centers they have toys that are there for the children to play with now if the parents wants to bring a toy that the children can play with then that would only up to them to do so and btw yes stop buying gifts for the children because of times are really hard and like you said they are not cheap parents of those children are not going to appreciate i would never ever bought any of those children any toys just think about your own children because its your money spend it on them that's not what a day care providers for let them start buying the toys for there children in bring them there so they can play you have to remember children are at that state of mind where they don't appreciate toys are any thing at a young age they lay them down on the floor in the dog are cat has chewed it up then they are put in the trash

You are very thoughtful to spend your own money like that on each child. But I think you have valid reasons for changing your protocol. Your decision is based on sound wisdom rather than greed. If you give to someone unappreciative, it doesn't not make sense to repeat the behavior.

If pressed you could simply say that you've decided to do something even better than plastic. Sentiment means more than toys. Children will not remember the latest brightly colored toy, but they will always remember the warmth and thoughtfulness bestowed upon them by a loving caregiver. The memory will last a lifetime.

Alternative "gifts" you could give:

Time. Make that child's day special. Read them a special book brought out only for birthdays. Let them wear a special paper hat at snacks and meals. Or decorate a special chair that only the birthday child can sit in for that day with balloons tied to it and their name written fancy on paper and taped to the seat back. You get the idea.

Food. Perhaps the parent would like to bring cupcakes for the child to share?

Attention/Love/Praise. Make a list of all the best traits about that child. Then every hour on the hour (or as often as you deem good enough) make a point to showering that praise and love on him/her. You could write it on a scroll and toot a toy horn and say, "Hear ye, hear ye....Jonathon Smith is a wonderful boy...has the best laugh...is always a good playmate...has great table manners...etc. Then call for a group hug where everyone leaves what they're doing just to go over and hug the birthday child.

Just be creative. If you find that you can't break the gift giving, perhaps consider changing the type of gift. A small plant that he could take care of (depending on the age of the child), a pair of cute socks. Or if you crochet, a little hat for the next winter.

Whatever you do, it isn't about the adulation that the parent gives you, or the prestige of the toy. It's about showing love to a child.

in the beginning, i'm hoping she had suited newborn seats in her motor vehicle for one and 2, does she even have permission to be using your newborn everywhere? If no longer i may well be ticked. If she could no longer take him she ought to have pronounced so at drop off no longer exhibiting up an hour later at your place with your newborn. What did she do with the different babies? Did she circulate away them unattended? Who replaced into with them? those varieties of issues might make purple flags circulate up in my strategies with the aid of fact if she did it to then you definately she's possibly achieved it to others. Secondly, you being unwell or having yet another newborn at homestead unwell or no longer isn't for her to be bothered approximately. She replaced into paid to do a activity she did no longer do this day. i think of i may well be questioning of looking a different affiliation on your babies and get them out of our surroundings. There are basically too many unanswered questions that deliver up difficulty.

When I was a kid in daycare, on our birthdays, all we ever got was a number 2 pencil that said "Happy Birthday" on it. And we were lucky to get that.