Did anyone plan to marry their bf/gf at 18?

Well, I do want to marry my high school sweetheart, and I do NOT plan on getting a divorce. I feel as if most don't make it nowadays whereas you see older people in their 40's+ who are still together. I think technology has something to do with it, or just how times have changed. I don't know, I'm a little old fashioned and only want to "live life once". I want to plan weddings, not continuously have them. I know many who have made it with their high school sweethearts (all older). Then again, most who get married now still want to party, etc. I'm not sure how hard people partied 30 or 60 years ago, but nowadays there's so much temptation: Facebook, parties, phones, email. You just have to find a person with higher morals or a big heart. I'm getting married AFTER college simply because I want us both to be fully matured by then and to be able to save up money. And I told him I am not having kids until I am at least 28. I want to have a solid relationship and travel and live life together first. But I know that these relationships CAN and DO work out, you just need to work at it and commit to it.

My parents did and they were married for 40 years when my dad passed away.

But.. times are much different now. 20-30-40+ years ago you could get a decent paying job with not even a high school education that you could comfortably afford to support a family on, that simply doesn't happen anymore. In today's age you need a college education to have a good job and much more to have a solid marriage. Finances -- where there are financial problems, there are marital problems.

My parents never regretted their choice in a spouse, however they both regretted marrying so young. They didn't go to college, didn't get to do the things young adults do (party scene, travel, etc) because they had a family. Friends of mine who married young (I'm 36) at 18 had the same regrets, of all the couples I know who married young in my generation 1 of them is still married and even they went through a lot of marital problems. My friend decided in her late 20's that she missed out on all those things young adults do and began going to bars all the time, her friends became 20-22 year olds with no types of responsibility, and she began to act like one of them. She had 1 affair I know of, and I speculate others. She and her husband did work things out but their marriage isn't the same anymore (broke trust) you can say that wouldn't happen to you but.. so did she.

I married recently for the first time in my 30's. I don't have regrets of getting married "later". I finished school, had a career, lived independently, traveled all over the world. All things I probably wouldn't have accomplished had I married young. When I married I was well established, owned my own home, had a savings, had a masters degree, etc. I'm not young & broke.

18 while it is legally an adult, the adult portion of the brain which controls major decision making actually hasn't yet formed. It forms around the age of 23/24. At that time your thought process, goals in life, and things you want begin to change, some are the same as when you were a teenager, most are different. This leads to many divorces of young couples. Do a google search on "frontal lobe development in the brain."

My sister and my brother both got married at 18. It was not exactly their "high school" sweet heart because they did not attend the same schools, they meet through a church group. They have both been married for over 35 years. My other sister got married at 18 to someone she had just recently meet and she ended up divorced within 5 years. Married a second time and divorced again after about 20 years. So, it is possible to get married at 18 and stay married, but I believe young couples of the current generation have a harder time doing it than teens of about 25 to 40 years ago.

(I don't count because I did not marry my high school bf and I didn't marry until 22.)

My little sister got married at 18. Her husband was 21 when they got married. It's been a year now and all they do is fight and yell at each other. They still live with his parents, they don't pay rent, they don't pay for food or bills, they live in a fantasy world. It's pathetic.

If I were you I would wait. There is absolutely no rush to get married. Your partner (if they really love you) isn't going anywhere and trying to trap someone in marriage at a young age because you're afraid of losing them is extremely immature and selfish.

NO WAY! I knew I wanted to spend time being my own person, doing things my own way. I knew I was nowhere near ready to settle down-I view 18 year olds as kids-I did then, and I still do now. I'm very much against kids getting married at such a young age. Its unnecessary and just feel wrong to me.

No way. At 18, dating was too much of a commitment.

Yes many of my so called stupid frds did but ended in a mess so better not do such things or year life will b spoilt

Not they don't always, but also sometimes they do!

Just give it time and sooner or later you will no :)

There is no rush. You have your whole life to get married.

I DID