I still havent figured out how to break out of this mindset how do you break it?

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I'm 23 years old and when I leave my house and am around people I'm constantly thinking negative thoughts about myself. It always has something to do about my face.. I feel like my natural expression resembles someone who is not sure about himself. I'm always thinking people think I look like a wuss and my sad worried facial expression is only showing how I feel. Its hard to look at people I just always think I have a weird facial expression on. An example is the otherday I went to a gas station and I waited in the car while my dad went inside. There was a car with people and I looked over for a second and caught a glimpse then returned to lookin straight ahead after I did that I heard some girl  say wussy but with a p instead of the w. This was said out loud to where I could hear it and it made me feel like it was directed towards me like its just obvious I look like a completely weak person and I honsestly feel like it everewhere I just don't have confidence and it shows. This was part of the reason I lost a relationship with a girl I was with a few years ago and I know my freinds can sense it too. When I'm at home and I look in the mirror I see a good looking guy and I've been told by three different guys in my life that I'm a good looking guy. I'm always inside and that's the only comfortable place I have when I'm out there I'm constantlyuncomfortable I rarely leave the house maybe a couple of times every two weeks. I'm seeing a phsyciatrist but he's giving me the same answers that everyone else does and its to talk to myself before I enter places and give myself positive talks and this just doesn't get rid of the negative thoughts feeling I get when I'm around people. I am so hard on myself some of the thoughts about myself are so ridiculous and I don't deserve to be treated that way its not fair to myself. Does anyone know any ways I can overcome this? If you were like this how did you beat it? I just don't want to keep living like this.

sumineeyum · Accepted Answer

I can sort of relate... I always feel inferior to just about everyone else even though I always seem to succeed in what I do. To me it sounds kind of like social anxiety and poor self esteem. Im not really sure how you can get rid of the way you feel about yourself besides counseling and maybe meds. I have been on a lot of meds... one is finally working. Ask your doctor about Buspar. Try and keep your head up and have self confidence.. people prey on those who seem weak... sick but true... best wishes.

? · Answer

hm i went via this in top institution. I obtained over it via continually difficult myself despite the fact that its whatever itty bitty like watching at any one two seconds longer than I regularly might or smiling at any one who appears at me earlier than i speedily flip away. The situation is you are beating your self down earlier than any individual else will get a risk to and you are doing it to an severe. Its convenient to mention or believe constructive however the situation is making an attempt to believe constructive. So i determined the self pep speak factor certainly not labored for me both.. most effective in a while while i began to construct slightly extra positivity. Like whilst you dare your self to grin at any one earlier than watching away and in the event that they occur to grin again, it kinda offers you a bit of spice up. Just take a look at doing little demanding situations for your self, begin with possibly bold your self to seem longer than part a moment and possibly in the future at a occasion pronouncing hello to any one you do not fairly understand. Its a sluggish system but it surely labored for me. well good fortune <three

SoandSo · Answer

Body dysmorphic disorder.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder

I still havent figured out how to break out of this mindset how do you break it?

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