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I still havent figured out how to break out of this mindset how do you break it?

I'm 23 years old and when I leave my house and am around people I'm constantly thinking negative thoughts about myself. It always has something to do about my face.. I feel like my natural expression resembles someone who is not sure about himself. I'm always thinking people think I look like a wuss and my sad worried facial expression is only showing how I feel. Its hard to look at people I just always think I have a weird facial expression on. An example is the otherday I went to a gas station and I waited in the car while my dad went inside. There was a car with people and I looked over for a second and caught a glimpse then returned to lookin straight ahead after I did that I heard some girl say wussy but with a p instead of the w. This was said out loud to where I could hear it and it made me feel like it was directed towards me like its just obvious I look like a completely weak person and I honsestly feel like it everewhere I just don't have confidence and it shows. This was part of the reason I lost a relationship with a girl I was with a few years ago and I know my freinds can sense it too. When I'm at home and I look in the mirror I see a good looking guy and I've been told by three different guys in my life that I'm a good looking guy. I'm always inside and that's the only comfortable place I have when I'm out there I'm constantlyuncomfortable I rarely leave the house maybe a couple of times every two weeks. I'm seeing a phsyciatrist but he's giving me the same answers that everyone else does and its to talk to myself before I enter places and give myself positive talks and this just doesn't get rid of the negative thoughts feeling I get when I'm around people. I am so hard on myself some of the thoughts about myself are so ridiculous and I don't deserve to be treated that way its not fair to myself. Does anyone know any ways I can overcome this? If you were like this how did you beat it? I just don't want to keep living like this.

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  • Phil
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    I would stop seeing the shrink for one. You already just said he tells you everything you already know.

    What you write reminds me of a friend I had in school who always worried what the boys thought of her.

    I think it is high time you came out of your shell and did something that will scare the hell out of you.

    Pack a backpack, head off to Thailand, Laos, Cambodia, and hitchhike all the way around these countries. Find the local state parks around you...and get a tent and go camping on weekends, hike hundreds of miles of trails.

    Go to Paris and rent a bike and cycle through morning traffic.

    Go to a naked beach.

    Get off your training wheels, buy a motorbike and smash it into a tree. Sit in the hospital for 2 months.

    Go SCUBA diving, sail across the Pacific.

    Buy a crap house and start fixing it up.

    You should have so much activity and work that you have no time to sit and look at yourself in the mirror. Better yet, break all the mirrors and stop shaving and grow some dreadlocks.

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