I still havent figured out how to break out of this mindset how do you break it?

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I'm 23 years old and when I leave my house and am around people I'm constantly thinking negative thoughts about myself. It always has something to do about my face.. I feel like my natural expression resembles someone who is not sure about himself. I'm always thinking people think I look like a wuss and my sad worried facial expression is only showing how I feel. Its hard to look at people I just always think I have a weird facial expression on. An example is the otherday I went to a gas station and I waited in the car while my dad went inside. There was a car with people and I looked over for a second and caught a glimpse then returned to lookin straight ahead after I did that I heard some girl  say wussy but with a p instead of the w. This was said out loud to where I could hear it and it made me feel like it was directed towards me like its just obvious I look like a completely weak person and I honsestly feel like it everewhere I just don't have confidence and it shows. This was part of the reason I lost a relationship with a girl I was with a few years ago and I know my freinds can sense it too. When I'm at home and I look in the mirror I see a good looking guy and I've been told by three different guys in my life that I'm a good looking guy. I'm always inside and that's the only comfortable place I have when I'm out there I'm constantlyuncomfortable I rarely leave the house maybe a couple of times every two weeks. I'm seeing a phsyciatrist but he's giving me the same answers that everyone else does and its to talk to myself before I enter places and give myself positive talks and this just doesn't get rid of the negative thoughts feeling I get when I'm around people. I am so hard on myself some of the thoughts about myself are so ridiculous and I don't deserve to be treated that way its not fair to myself. Does anyone know any ways I can overcome this? If you were like this how did you beat it? I just don't want to keep living like this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

get a hobby

Dydy86 · Answer

hm i went through this in high school. I got over it by constantly challenging myself even if its something itty bitty like looking at someone 2 seconds longer than I usually would or smiling at someone who looks at me before i quickly turn away. The problem is you're beating yourself down before anyone else gets a chance to and you're doing it to an extreme. Its easy to say or think positive but the problem is trying to feel positive. So i found the self pep talk thing never worked for me either.. only later on when i started to build a bit more positivity. Like when you dare yourself to smile at someone before looking away and if they happen to smile back, it kinda gives you a little boost. Just try doing little challenges for yourself, start with maybe daring yourself to look longer than half a second and maybe one day at a social gathering saying hi to someone you don't really know. Its a slow process but it worked for me. good luck <3

Anonymous · Answer

hm i glided by using this in acceptable enterprise. I obtained over it by using consistently confusing myself whether its even if itty bitty like gazing at anybody 2 seconds longer than I commonly might or smiling at anybody that looks at me before than i rapidly turn away. the area is you're beating your self down before than all people else gets possible to and you're doing it to an severe. Its handy to point or have faith helpful although the area is attempting to have faith helpful. So i desperate the self pep talk element in no way worked for me the two.. maximum effectual in a collectively as collectively as i began out to construct particularly greater positivity. Like collectively as you dare your self to smile at anybody before than gazing away and in the event that they take place to smile lower back, it kinda will supply you merely slightly boost. merely take a glance at doing little annoying situations for your self, initiate with probable formidable your self to look longer than section a 2d and probable sooner or later at a party saying hi to anybody you do no longer fairly comprehend. Its a sluggish device even though it surely worked for me. properly sturdy fortune <3

I still havent figured out how to break out of this mindset how do you break it?

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