My dad hates all of the things I do.?

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So look im 16 years old and a well rounded teen. My neighborhood is filled with kids so I take advantage of it by watching kids. So they got me involved in yugioh. They let me use their cards and they grew on me. So now i play with them and also at this card store (yes i was surprised it was there. Its called the Garden of Earthly Delights and the name is something that most kids may usually stay away from) and i learned they play there so i built a 2 decks there one easy enough to match up with the younger kids and one for the other people my age. So my dad sees me looking through the cards for the first time. The first thing he tells me is to stop wasting my time with crap like that and focus on my school. I told him to look at a certificate i had on my wall for distinguished honors...11 years in a row. So im doing awesome in school.
Another thing is that I had a ps2 and only 2 games kingdom hearts 2 and naruto ultimate ninja 3 and I sold it and bought a ps3 with the money I earned from babysitting. He tells me that I shouldn't waste my time with video games considering i go to a college prep that i think mocks college because we use college textbooks and test all in high school and says I should worry about my school. I am awesome with school once again and I can only play it on weekends and most of the time I can easily give away the tv to other people. Most of the time im with friends.
When i go out with friends apparently I must be back before dark even though their house is a block away and I live in the suburbs where nothing ever go on. We plan on going to the movies and he thinks he has to chaperon us and the movies is a 45 minute walk considering we don't have any buses. He goes with us and embarrasses me saying this movie is too young for me and we were seeing old dogs (you know how the cover it has adam sandler and his friends going down the water slide and chooses a movie for us(we snuck out)).
Last he is always complaining about my diet. He thinks im too skinny. Because of my neighborhood I'm always walking around so I get alot of exercise and im one of those people who don't really gain weight no matter how much i eat. He is always babying me trying to monitor my diet by buying me "expensive" things like organic eggs and milk saying its good for me.
He is an awesome guy (at home) and I rely on him for alot but he needs to know that im not i kid and I can take care of my self and other kids. I have a job and good grades, he knows all of my friends and meet their parents. I just don't know why he is saying all of the things I do is bad. I play yugioh so does other people in my neighbor hood my age maybe about 40 from my school who i seen at the garden, the games i bought aren't inappropriate its midnight club L.A and final fantasy 13. I also have distinguish honors since the first grade and i could skip a grade if I wanted to I took the test and passed but i told my principal to tell my parents I failed so I can stay in my grade. Yeah I know but I like my friends. And I want to stay in high school and go to college the year im supposed to go. What is his problem I just want some more freedom around me and for him to stop babying me.
Sorry this is so long but I really need some advice.

Qui Qui · Accepted Answer

I think your dad is trying to make you act your age..You should ask him why don't you like what i do (play with cards,like to see little kids movies,weight,etc) Since you seem to have good grades I don't seem why not you cant have  little fun even if looks like little kids should only be doing the stuff you do..My friend who is 17 still watches sponge bob and ninja turtles but he knows when to put that aside..I think he want you to have fun but not with kids younger than you..You should tell him how you feel and see how he responds

PhotoFan · Answer

Wow, you sure are in a rut. Such a long description too.

But aside from that, in a simple paragraph, probably the most direct and shortest way to telling your dad to stop babying you is to have a talk and sit down with your parents. Yes, most teens wouldn't want to sit down with their parents, but you never know. 

Like I said, spend a couple of minutes with your parents alone telling them that they (especially your father) need to let you become independent and need to stop treating you like a child. You're almost becoming an adult and it's time for your father to let you make your own decisions. Be serious and direct about this. 

You already have a good start with your good grades, you qualifying to go to college already, and your babysitting. All of these show that you are a great model. 

About your father, personally, I think it's that deep down inside, he knows that you're independent, but I think it's the mentality that he wants you to become successful and great at life. It just shows that he's doing his job.

Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

Salam sister All households have problems don't worry.even the great sahabas. one sahaba and his wife always use to argue till one day he decided to divorce her so he made his way to umar ibn al kitaab house and before he could knock on the door he heard his wife just shouting at him and he was just silent, the sahaba then returned and realised all households have problems but that doesn't mean we should hate our family? What you dad does is totally haram and you should tell him about the quranic verses saying men should always lower there gaze, if my accident they see a women then they should look away and say astagfurallah however if they look again then this is haram. You will just have to explain it to him and express your disgust with his actions

? · Answer

u still play yugioh??
i stopped playing wen i was 8

My dad hates all of the things I do.?

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