5 weeks pregnant after IVF how do I cope with fear of loss?

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After 2 1/2 years of ttc we finally were able to see a bfp thanks for ivf.  We transferred one embryo and so far things are fine.  I don't really have any major symptoms yet aside from some cramping (which scares me but I think my severe endometriosis is making it more painful for me).

I am 5 weeks today.  Next Friday I will have my first u/s to check the viability and make sure the baby is in the uterus where it should be :)

Because it was such a long and difficult road to get here, I'm so scared of losing my baby.  I know that the chance is only around 15% and that if we see a heartbeat next week it's even less...but I still can't help but worry.  I'm obviously extrememly happy with the fact that it worked, but it's so unfair that I can't fully enjoy something I've waited so long to experience :(

Anyone else going through this and how did/do you cope?

thanks

FYI hcg results showed that numbers were doubling in under 48 hours so that's good!

Melly · Accepted Answer

I went through IVF in January 2007 and gave birth to beautiful, perfectly healthy twin girls in September of that year as a result.  I know what it's like to constantly worry!  I think it's just a matter of moving forward with what you have, taking things day by day and thinking positively.  You can't let yourself get weighed down by what *might* go wrong.  Instead, focus on the fact that you are pregnant (YAY!!!!!) and that you've already cleared at least one major obstacle to get there.  The cramping, by the way, is totally normal.  I cramped too, and my fertility specialist said it was because my uterus was stretching because of the little miracles growing inside of me.  It happened for me for this pregnancy too, from the time I missed my period until a week or two after I knew I was pregnant, and now I still have round ligament pain.  If you were to experience bleeding, I'd call your doc just to reassure yourself, but really that could be just because of a change in protocol, such as a change in the progesterone dosage you're on.  Also, it's totally normal to be scared that you might lose the pregnancy you've worked so hard for, so don't be too hard on yourself.  You probably won't start having any serious pregnancy symptoms for at least another week if you even get them.  I had hardly any symptoms with my twins and they're healthy, so don't worry if you aren't praying to the porcelain god later on.  Once you start to show and/or begin to feel flutters, your mind will probably begin to ease.  Until then, focus on the positive- seeing a good, healthy baby in your ultrasounds, your lack of a period, etc.  That's what I did to get through the early part of pregnancy and it really helped me.  Congratulations on your long-awaited pregnancy!  I'm so happy for you!

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Anonymous · Answer

im pretty sure its fine i didnt always feel sick it comes and goes if you want to put your mind at rest go to drs tomorrow

5 weeks pregnant after IVF how do I cope with fear of loss?

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