Girlfriend issues....?

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I just need an opinion on this if possible from anyone. My girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 4 years now (since we were 16) and while it didn't always go smoothly or anything and we had fights, I never really questioned how I felt about her. Recently though, over a week long span where I was studying for exams, she flirted with this guy for a total of 5 hours according to her (in that week)...and it made her question our almost 4 year long relationship. So she wanted to take a "break", which we all know isn't exactly possible since you cant just flick on and off how you feel about someone, so I told her that I guarenteed this guy couldnt hold a candle to all that I had done for her (consider that mere minutes before she told me all this, she asked me to help her study for HER exam coming up) and all that I had helped her through and also said that if she really took that break to find out if there was something between him and her, that I wouldn't be here waiting for her. Plus, I told her a while before this that if she flirted with a guy I would just end it right there because if this was supposed to be a legit relationship, I should be able to trust her to actually care about how it would make me feel.

So a few days rolled by and she called and said that she "didnt feel anything for him" and wanted to be with me again.....now my head is saying no way, how can you trust her with anything after she treated you like that....but I dont exactly know how I feel about it....it's kind of mixed....when I dont think about what she did, I think I still feel for her, but when I do....I honest to god never want to see her face again. And I mean like, she doesnt apologize for it really because the apology comes in a form of "I forgave you for lieing to me about this, this and this" and it's all completely insignificant stuff that doesnt affect how she feels at all.

So I was thinking if I could just get some opinions on maybe what I should do or anything like that, I would really appreciate it.

Thanks

Vicky · Accepted Answer

honestly yes it will be hard to let someone go since you been with them for 4 years but honestly in my opinion i would let her go :/ because soon she is going to do that to you more and more in the future. and it wont bug her because then she will be thinking like "yeah he will be there no matter what" and you dont want that. and her bringing up stuff like that is ridiculous. so overall i would break up with her. and if you feel like you still want to stay with her make some rules. such as if she wants to go on a break just tel her " ono either your with me or not, there are no such things as breaks" also let her know that if she decides to break up with her be sure to let her know you wont take her back after. and if she stays than be sure to work out what the problem is.

ɫɦɾouɡɦ ɫɦɛ ɛɣɛʂ oʄ ɫɦɛ ɑvɛɴɢɛd · Answer

Okay, so Im kind of going through the same thing. 
She probably just wanted to see what it was like with other guys, because you guys have been with it together for soo long. And she just wants to test her feelings for you, or she's afraid of commitment and wants to make sure that she's with the right man.  Sometimes breaks are good.

I think what you two should do is just be friends for a bit, see how that goes. And see if your guys' feelings for eachother change or stay the same or what.

hannuuhhh · Answer

They say to let the people you love go, and then if they come back they are yours, and if they don't they never were. Sometimes people just need to take a break from someone till they realize how much they care about them, if you were really missing her when she was gone, then you should go back with her. but if you just feel used, and don't want her anymore then just move on, she was not for you. You just need to follow your heart, do what you want. It sounds to me like you guys had a pretty strong relationship, and it might hurt you to lose her, think about this one, it could be a big regret if you don't listen to your heart. good luck, hope it works out. (:

Anonymous · Answer

way to stick up for yourself, i think its a chance you have to take whether or not she legitmately still cares for you, because what if she truly does? but then again u don't want to look like a guy who is easily manipulated, i personally wouldn't do it, i think there's girls out there that would appreciate you way more

Girlfriend issues....?

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