I am upset with husband and want to know if Im just being a *****?

GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND DO NOT STRESS. Does not necessarily sound shady...if it happens again, maybe.

Seriously --- just let him go, go out with your friends and focus on yourself and have a good time. ;) He'll come home to you.

This is more of a question about finances rather than the trip itself. Would it matter if you spent the money entertaining the friends? DId you not say that he got the ticket at an economical price? That most of his expenses are already covered? If he is reasonable he will still watch the amount of money he spends and the same should apply to you. Would you be less careful if he decided not to take the trip? I would assume not. You both can have fun by setting a budget.

Now the real question is number three that is haunting you. Right? He is going without you. Well why did you not suggest that you two rent a car for the weekend, which is reasonable, and go together that way you can call the friends and reset for another weekend and you two can spend some quality time together and have fun at the b day party? That is what you should have gotten down to. Why is he going without you? Just ask and we will answer. That is a question that you must either address like I stated above or just deal with. Good luck

I have to agree with others on this, it depends on a lot of things. How close of friends are they? Are your friends his friends as well? Is he a trustworthy person? Do you have any reason to be upset, other than money reasons? Did he say you couldn't go?

I would talk to him and tell him that you don't want to fight about this. Suggest that the two of you drive to LA for the birthday party. Careful on how much you spend, but it has to be less than a plane ticket. Enjoy the birthday party together. Have a good time. Come back, make a few cut backs on your weekend with your friends. This way you both are compromising. He gets to go and you still get to see your friends. You both have to just budget. And if he then says he does not want you to go and he will not drive, then yes, check up and him and you have a right to be a B***H then! Because if he cannot agree to this wonderful compromise and both of you enjoy the entire week with friends and each other, then he's up to something and I guarantee you it isn't a birthday party! I would say then, "Something" is up! Good Luck

1. If he's already gone ahead and bought the ticket, it's a moot point. He won't get a refund, so he might as well go along with his original travel plans. If he hasn't bought the ticket yet, look into driving to save some money.

2. Couples don't have to have the same friends. It's OK for you to go with your friends, and for him to go with his friends.

3. Sometimes you just need to do something on your own. Maybe his friend is someone he used to be close to and this is a milestone birthday. I wouldn't stress about it.

The main point is you don't always have to do everything together. Time apart from each other can be a good thing.

And why are your friends more important than his friends?

I live not far north of San Francisco, and the drive to LA can be done in a day. Now look at the other side of this, he flies down for one day and flies back, so he can spend time with you and your friends before or after he goes. If he drives down, he will not have the time to spend with you and your friends.

Why does wanting to go visit his friend sound any different than you wanting to visit your friend? I'm thinking this is more about the money than anything else. You want to spend money on you and your friends, he wants to spend money on his friends.

You want that money for your visit, and you don't care about his visit because it will mean you can't be as lavish with your friends.

Sorry, but I think you are not asking for a compromise, which is normal in a marriage, you are asking it to be your way only. If you are going to stay mad at him for a long time after this, then I'll let you put your own title on your behavior.

Just my thoughts

If that isn't a red flag then I don't know what is I'm sure you heard the saying out of sight out of mind. No wife wants to think that her husband is capable of such an horrible offense on her but 70% due indeed cheat and personally I think the percentage is a lot higher as high as 90%.

I placed my husband in the percentage that wouldn't cheat not just me but everyone who knows him would say to me he is a good man he would never in a million years cheat on you. Well guess what he did indeed cheat on me and if someone like my husband who was sweet nice and caring if he is capable of cheating then trust me anyone is. Never ever think you know your spouse everyone has a side they keep to them self.

What you need to do is call your friends and cancel there trip to visit you make it another time. Jump on the next plane or make the drive without your husband knowing about it. For the sake of your marriage you need to see what he is really up to. If it's nothing then you can say you wanted to surprise him by being at the party when he walks in. If you find on the other hand that he was really going there to meet a woman or to just cheat with anyone then you have a chance to stop it before it happens. Don't do what I did which was nothing I wanted to believe my husband would never cheat on me. By doing nothing we enable them to get away with it don't think your doing anything wrong by checking up on him it's your right after all your his wife.

Look I don't know your husband but if you trust him then the only problem here is the fact that he is going without you right or is it more about the money? Nothing you can do about it he is going to his friends birthday party and that's that. I would have a very big problem with not knowing who is at that party your husband might not want you to see. Sorry after my husband cheated on me I don't trust any man they all have ulterior motives and I think your husband is hiding something from you.

Did he specifically say that he didn't want you to go? Or is it just because your friends are coming to visit? I think the fair thing to do would be for you to get to spend just as much as he is on his trip. I don't know if it's shady because I don't know how good of a friend the person he is going to visit is, how strong your relationship is, or what kind of party he is going to. In general, a husband going out of town without his wife is not unheard of, but it is a little selfish unless it's something you both do regularly

Look I am not going to sugar coat this one for you. Let him go, If you have the money to take your friends out then why are you tripping for him to go to L.A He may just want time with the guys what is shady is the way your acting. Remember 50/50 you need to give your share let him have fun it sounds like you want it to be all about you. The more you hold on the more he is going to pull away from you. Stop fight it.

Have fun with your friends and let him have fun with his. If the visitors from out of town meant alot to him he would stay. I therefore assume the vistors are more for you then him. Split the "fun money" and you each have a good time. Its good for couples to go thier own way somethimes. He can screw right down the block, if thats what he wanted. Trust him until you see cause not to. Also: Tell him not to make this a habbit.Maybe once a year..seperate vacations. And next time only of the money is right.

Wellll, I am from the Bay Area, and now live in the LA area.... don't worry.... a lot of the people here in the party/club scene are all just in party mode.... it all feels very superficial.... he's not going to come down here and meet someone else.... there's no one to meet!

are you able to think of if a guy got here on right here and mentioned he had to bash his spouse in the pinnacle with a frying pan collectively as she slept? He shouldn't yell at you. perhaps inspite of the shown fact that, you're being stressful or patronizing. enable him do his very own artwork. If he remains yelling locate yet another guy.