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Was anyone terrified of being pregnant?
We've been ready for kids for a while - and as each day goes by, I am more and more ready. But I'm absolutely terrified of getting pregnant. The baby part doesn't scare me - the 9 months of having the baby in me, does.
I am a very anxious and stressful type of person - which stresses me out even more because I know being stressed while being pregnant can be bad for baby.
I'm not worried about the sickness or sore boobs or what its going to do to my body - I'm afraid of something going wrong and not being able to control it.
Also - and I know this is silly to think, but everyone else I know, have had such good pregnancies and healthy babies, with no complications - that it has to happen to someone, and I am the last one to have kids.
Anyone else feel this way?? I wish I could get pregnant, sleep for 9 months and wake up when the baby is here. I really, really want to start my family - but this is holding me back.
Does anyone know of any anxiety medication you can take safely during pregnancy? I feel it might be my only option - I had to take anxiety medications when I was younger. I have it 99% under control now - but the pregnancy thing is a big one for me.
I should also add that I have probably over-educated myself about pregnancy. Having so many people close to me pregnant multiple times over the last few years, I have taken a great interest in what's going on in their bodies and with the babies. I've done lots of reading, and looking things up. In one respect it's good cause I am aware of almost every problem that could occur now - but on the other hand, I know too much, I think. To the point that it worries me more now that I know everything that could go wrong.
Thank you for the information"?" One last edit - I promise!
I nannied/had a day home for 12 years of my life. I am all for giving up my life for a child, they are my life.
I think my fear stems from the loss of my parents actually, 9 and 4 years ago. I guess I am just afraid to lose one more thing and hate the fact that while baby is inside me there is absolutely nothing I can do to help if something goes horribly wrong.
3 Answers
- suederLv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
I can sympathize with you. I am a worrywart and can stress myself into lots of things. I remeber telling a few people that I wish I could just have the baby and not be pregnant and they laughed. But I was serious. I didn't want to get pregnant because I worried about the changes in my body and how to take care of the baby inside of me. Well, I got pregnant about a two weeks or so ago. I was surprisingly very excited and have only had a few times where I have thought, "Oh, no. What am I doing?"These times seem to come when I am alone more than any other time. I feel more excited than I thought I would feel and have come to the realization that it is only in my hands to a point. I can do everything right and still lose the baby. But, I know I have a strong support to fall back on if that happens and right now I am enjoying the pregnancy and trying to keep my mind of the what ifs. Good luck!
- ?Lv 51 decade ago
I am 17 weeks. Its gone by pretty fast, tho I haven't had any morning sickness or anything. I also haven't gained much weight and I don't think I'm showing yet (I could be kidding myself). Some times I kind of 'forget' I'm pregnant. I'm just hoping the next half goes as easy as this half has been so far.
I was really scared when I first found out I was pregnant, but for me it hasn't been bad at all. I have been pretty paranoid, especially when an appointment comes up - I'm always afraid they will tell me I had a miscarriage without knowing. Or currently, I am waiting on my Quad Screening, so I'm worried about that. I'm a very stressed out person to begin with, you just have to let things go sometimes, which I realize is way harder then actually doing.
I think its natural for women to be a little afraid.
I'm sure once your pregnant you will feel silly about being so scared to be.
GOOD LUCK. Quit worrying so much, sometimes you can't do anything to prevent things from happening. Just go with the flow!
- ?Lv 61 decade ago
You are far from alone. I had an awful fear of labor, to the point of panic, and overcame it by waiting, learning a lot, and by wanting a child more than anything else. Rather than meds, I suggest that you either wait to have a child, because compared to pregnancy, which lasts less than a year (and labor - less than one day!), parenting lasts a lifetime! Most such fear are related to loss of control, but parenting is ALL about loss control of your life, and as I said, it lasts MUCH longer.
Read, talk to other women, learn as much as you can, and if you still cannot but feel anxious consider adoption!
Read up about it:
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0846/is_9_2...
or try this program to deal with the issue - like many anti-anxiety programs, it is about cogntiive retraining, and desensitization
Source(s): http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0846/is_9_2... http://www.pregnancy.org/question/there-cure-fear-... http://www.changethatsrightnow.com/problem_detail....
