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Getting a divorce. Need help.?
My wife sprang it on me tonight. I really dont know what to do now. Said "the spark is gone". Weve had some problems in the past, but nothing like this. I dont know. It seemed like she just put her foot down about it. LIke this is the way she feels and theres nothing we can do about it. I think she wants us to be like we were dating, all passion and romance. That was 7 years ago. I just kind of thought we were slowing down like every other couple. I dont know. Somebody please help me out. You can just email me if you want. I dont really care right now. sketchy_larry@yahoo.com
inb4 an hero, in case any of you are out there
5 Answers
- 1 decade ago
Well, if you still love her, and don't want her to leave you, then I suggest that you be honest about your feelings at tell her that you still care and what has been keeping you from treating her the way she wants you too.
I had the same problem with my boyfriend, we were together for only 4 months, and he already began to act as if we were married with 5 kids, for 17 years or something. Men tend to get tired of things too fast imo. It doesn't take much to keep your woman buy your side guys, just be sensitive, caring and passionately honest about what you say to her. Don't pretend to give a damn, REALLY give a damn. A woman can tell a lie a mile away. Other then that, I hope this helps.
Source(s): common sense - RetroRanchLv 61 decade ago
Ooops! Guess you were wrong. But then, you knew what would make her happy. You just weren't up to doing it. What you do now is ask her, "One lawyer or two?" When they get to that point, they've thought about it for a while. Take it like a man. (Or cry and write frantic love letters, but it will all be the same in the end.) Say to yourself, "I have to get over this some time. Might as well be now."
- 1 decade ago
i dono if u 2 have been to couples counseling. but i would suggenst it if u want to save your marrage. ask her for 6 more months and do the sounseling for six months if the counseler cant help u then a divorce might be the only thing. just make sure its all on god terms. its easier that way. i hope it all works out. and i hope that helps. im very srry my parents whent through one...it was harsh. hope u do well.
- 1 decade ago
try it out ask her if she would like to go to dinner or dancing or fun things that you know she really enjoys, if she agrees than try to make it a regular thing where like every weekend you two go out and do something fun, and try to make it different things so that you don't wear any one thing out and make it become boring. whatever happens don't mention or try to discuss anything about the divorce. also don't do this extreme to a point that effects your bills and my make you go bankrupt do as much as you can but keep your priorities in line if she refuses the date(s), or does not care for your priorities, than let it go. just be yourself and if she wants to leave let her.
- 1 decade ago
!st Larry, Is that your name? Any who, FILE FIRST!! If you have any children or property, FILE FIRST!! Whoever files first will get temp custody and support as well as may be able to get maintenance from the other party and will also get temp ownership to any property. Also if she is to file first she can get orders to have you removed from the home until the divorce is final!! So, please FILE FIRST!!!
