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How do I handle problems with my mother?
I'm an adult with a family of my own, and my mother is mad that no one saw her ON her birthday. Mind you, she was here three days before her birthday for five days. And I asked her to stay longer so we could see her on her birthday. But she said she had to leave. And then now is mad I didn't drive two hours three days later, to celebrate with her.
But it's very stressful when my mother is around. Yet I let her stay at my house whenever she wants. But seeing her three days later is more stress than I could handle. So I wasn't going to drive out there when she was just here. And I told her she doesn't appreciate that I let her stay here whenever she wants for as long as she wants, and that she's making me feel that because I didn't see her on ONE day, I'm no longer doing anything for her. And she refuses to acknowledge I do anything for her, because of that one day. I'm so frustrated and sad, it's beyond words.
Anyone else deal with this too?
The funny thing is I had already gotten her several gifts and wanted to take her to dinner the following weekend. I was still going to drive out and spend another weekend with her. Just not THE weekend. And yes, I am very stressed out. My spouse and I almost split up the weekend of her b-day. Which was another reason why I wanted a HUGE pass this b-day. And she refuses to give it to me.
3 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
my dear your mom is very selfish and my dear you should tell her too once ,but i know ,it will not make her understand,but what can you do really ,the thing is that ,that she is your mom and she expects a lot from you .it is because you are so nice you take care of her at the time of need,one thing you tell her is that with due respect that ,now you have a life of your own ,and you have a husband to take care of too ,and dear you asked her to stay more longer too ,and you mentioned that you and your spouce nearly split up because of the situation ,now that is not exceptable ,nono big no no.i know you are feling stressful try and talk to her ,make her understand that this kind of her behaviour is making your life miserable and she needs to stop aqnd some times you need a break too.my dear friend i feel your pain and hope fully things will get better INSHALLAH .ALLAH (GOD) will help you ,and praying helps too .
Source(s): keep up the good work ,you are a good daughter GOD will bless you. - Nora CLv 41 decade ago
You seem stressed out. You could probably be tired. Reorganise yourself. Take a short break.
Send your mom some flowers and a card for a belated birthday. It is the thought that counts.
- Julie CLv 51 decade ago
Your mother sounds a bit selfish. I wouldn't stress out about it. Take it in stride, because she isn't going to be around forever.