Pre-nups with a twist.?

Admirable and probably the way of the future with divorce being so rampant today.

I guess my idea of a marriage is that it's a partnership. If each individual is working toward an individual goal, and the finances are always separate, then they are two people living parallel lives, and their paths will never meet. If they are working together toward a common goal, then they will both reap the rewards when that goal is acheived.

My example would be a couple who are in college, one has a full ride scholarship and has not debt when college is over, the second had to take out student loans and leaves school with thousands of dollars in debt. If they do not marry their bank accounts as well as each other, the one with the debt will constantly be bringing the one who is debt free down. They can never go any farther together, because the one who is already caught up is forever waiting for the other to catch up.

If the person with no debt works to help pay off the loans, they will get out of, debt faster and move forward with their lives together.

It's not about how much you had, how much you have, or how much you'll have in the future. It's about being a couple and working to solve your problems together. Yes, there will be times when one is going to be putting forth more effort, or making more money, but if the relationship is growing and going forward, it will all balance out in the end.

If its what both parties want then why not. And now a days pre nups are not ust about money. I have read that couples are doing it with everything. Chores how much sex kids money making everything. Which I think is smart. Every couple should make a list of all the things they want out of a marriage and discuss it with their mate. And come to agreements before tieing the knot. Write it all out and sign it.

Me and my boyfriend know that we are going to get married someday, and we both know that we want a prenup. In fact, I am the one with the lesser assets and I brought it up!

Though not romantic, a prenup is a very loving thing to do for someone else. It almost says, even if we break up I don't want to screw you over.

A lot of people don't know this, but the only things you battle over during a divorce is community property - which is property that you acquired during your marriage together. Property that was yours separately prior to the union will still be yours in the event of a divorce if you don't have a prenup. Lets say for example, you have a car and it is yours clean and clear. If you got divorced, the car would still be yours no ifs ands or buts because it is separate property. However, if your spouse contributed $$ to your car, it then become community property and subject to negotiation in a divorce.

Prenups do protect you and your spouse, but they more focus on how to divide community property in the event of a divorce.

Whatever the two decide. However, I think it's really sad that marriage has come to pre-nups. 50 years ago, we never heard of such a thing. 50 years ago, most people took their vows to heart. I take my vows seriously, until death do us part. It doesn't mean everyone does, but I think it is really sad that they don't. I think these days and times, marriage has become more for convenience to too many people instead of for love!

agree to the terms and sign

i would sign but they might have extra money stored or another family even but be aware

whatever floats their boat but they had best have thier own attorney review it before signing anything.