Men how open are you about your needs in the bedroom?

When we were first married, we were both very timid. Time goes on, and we are soooo much better now days. We talk in private, usually. I think when people are young, we create these expectations about what a marriage is supposed to look like that often conflict with our gut level urges...the expectations go away over time, and we talk more openly and bluntly than we used to.

If someone isnt open about their needs in a relationship, especially sexual needs, the relationship becomes one sided and trivial. Women are not mind readers and only expressing how you feel to them will POSSIBLY get your desired outcome. The worst that can happen is you have to compromise.

Trading these needs and satisfying your partner is key to developing/maintaining a helathy realationship. ( barring certain activites such as sever deviant behavior )

I believe its best to talk about it before during AND after.

the key word is experimentation and having an open mind

I'm usually pretty open about that kind of thing; you have to be if you want it to be any good. Most of the time I talk about it either during or before/after.

I know I'm not a man......but I'm answering for mine.

He is VERY open about what he wants / likes.......which I greatly appreciate because it makes our love life SO MUCH better!!

We talk about it during AND after the deed.....

I'm not very open.

I told my wife a few times a little of what I like in bed, and she told me I was "way out there" and to stop telling her these things because she's not interested - and I should be happy with what I get.

Ok, I'm not a man...but my husband is very open with me about what he likes or doesn't like. And if he wants me to do something specific, he tells me right then. Of course he's not bossy about it, but he does make requests.

If i want it i will ask for it at any time. Even if we are watching tv i just blurt it out from no where. We just went on a trip to Florida and i was feeling a bit naughty so i woke my wife up and told her i needed a "bj" and guess what it worked. Just ask and you shall receive.

If you don't voice your opinion, how are you both going to know what the other one wants. Tell her openly that you want to eat her pussy, and see where it goes. Maybe you would like to try to suck on one also, or maybe not. But you do have to communicate to each other to get anywhere.

The more open you are about what you need, the more likely you are to get it, and you'll both be happy. Men or women.

I'm too old to be bashful now,and I'm not a mind reader so I ask GF what is better,best,etc