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How do you handle a family member regarding plans?
My sis in law, does this thing where we make plans, and then she asks me about three more times if I'm sure we're keeping our plans. And no matter how many times I agree, she asks again. And if I don't validate "yes" to every time she asks, then she thinks our plans are canceled. It's really driving me up the wall. I figure if I tell someone we have plans, then we do. And I'm not used to having to tell someone over and over, yes, we have plans! How would you handle this?
3 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Hi nonfoo just got your message ,that is a matter to consider ,you know I agree with Mignon F ,that is I am 100%sure that is the reason ,she might be insecure for what might have happened in the past ,you should try talking to her and make her sure that she should not feel insecure ,when you say that the plans are going to be yes then you mean bussiness only if you are ill or have GOD forbid any kind of emergency only then the plans are not going to be according to the plan.I hope you understand what I am trying to say .You are nice that you are so much concer ned about her ,some people don't even bother to talk to each other let alone sister in law ,keep up the good work nice one
- Mignon FLv 51 decade ago
Why don't you let her know what you just told us. She may be still trying (I don't know how new or old she is on being your in-law) to fit in with your family.
Maybe her family always cancels on her or does the maybe thing then says yes and then no or they just forget. She's insecure with this for some reason and needs that reassurance. Just let her know that if you say Yes that's what it means and only an emergency/illness would keep you from keeping the date planned.
- The First DragonLv 71 decade ago
I would get used to saying "yes" over and over. It doesn't seem that hard to do. I understand it's annoying, but it's not a big thing, and at least she isn't canceling at the last minute like some people I know.
