How many came from parents in a bad marriage?

My parents hated each other. My first marriage was miserable. The second time, I got it right. Six years later, I am so glad I did.

Me, I'm devorced and have a 10 times better relationship with my X. My parents had a horrific marriage.

When I feel optimistic I will say it's not their fault.. I will blame it on the fact I was 17 and that I was so not ready to deal with all the stresses of marriage.

When I feel pessimistic I say it's my parents unstable marriage/lifestyle that pushed me into getting married young.

I came from a broken home , alcaholic father , mother searching for god's path in life for her .

My oldest brother is a hypocondriac he cant hold down a job he's on some disability pension before our dad died he used the same doctor and claimed he inherited all my dad's illnesses , he's been married twice has 3 kids , he's 41 and living with our mother and he treats her like garbage he think's it's his right to pay her back for his pain she allegedly caused him.

My 2nd eldest brother has also married twice has 2 daughters and a new grand daughter who was born in April , he's 39 he uses drugs and alcahol , he was abused physically and mentally by his 2nd wife and she is the 1st woman he has ever physically hurt back in self defense , she's now living with my ex husband and wreaking havoc for my 4 kids.

3rd eldest brother who is only 11 months older then me is a drug user , dealer and alcaholic , he's beaten and bashed his 1st wife and his now ex g/f , he mentally abuses his daughter's and step children and my son's when I am not around .

My sister has been married 3 time's has 3 kids the 1st 2 were from her 1st husband , she's worked since age 16 , she uses drug's but she's a happy go lucky hippy style chick , nothing grates on her nerves , her 2nd husband had 4 kids and she was a great step mum to them and she still see's them even though she's on her marriage.

Me ? I met my 1st husband when I was 16 had 4 kids with him helped him get his 1st home , he was abusive emotionally and verbally , he didnt drink like my dad did , but then my dad never got violent in any way when he was drunk , he was actually happier drunk then sober so I guess you could say he was a grouchy sober person , my marriage ended in it's 11th year , I married again having had 5 children , just like my mum , my 2nd husband also didnt drink , wasnt abusive until the 8th year after he had an affair and even then it was only emotionally and verbally.

I kind of changed the cycle , my brother's took it to the extremes.I dont understand their way of dealing with it throwing their lives away , I wish I was more like my sister in the happy hippy sense but I am just me jaded and guarded.

When times get rough, it's easy to compare it to a bad marriage between your parents. I believe that some (but not all) people are attracked to certain individuals that exhibit similar qualities as their parents.

Everyone probably has in some way or the other. But we fail to see the good part of their marriage too. They brough us life, health, lifestyle, reason to become someone, and most of all, love.

No matter how bad of a relationship parents may have, there is also the much good part of their relationships too. We always tend to overlook that and we must be genuine, kind, and generous to them all the time.

Does your step father abandoning your mother count as a bad marriage? I divorced my first husband...but never let my unhappy childhood affect the man that I chose to marry....we both admitted to the mistakes that we made in our marriage. I wouldn't say that we had a bad marriage at all...but unfortunately we made some bad choices that led to the demise of our marriage.

Me too, but my father was physically abusive, where as my first husband became verbally abusive to his children so I ended the marriage. There's no need for that sort of behaviour guys and if you don't like the relationship your in, THEN GET OUT AND DO ALL CONCERNED A FAVOUR.

i believe some people keep finding people like the parent who hurt us, to marry. almost as if we are trying to fix something from our childhood that went wrong. people will have many traits of the parent who caused the bad marriage. we do seek the same mate with the same characteristics as the parent who hurt us. until we realize this, we can't begin to change it. we can break the pattern if we realize the reasons behind the behavior.

my parents had a terrible marriage, abusive and not a very loving marriage. i am now married to a man just like my dad, very nasty and screaming man, he is not physically abusive but verbally, i love my father but my parents marriage is exactly like mine,which i kno is very sad. espessialy for the kids

A lot of us. But, just because their marriage was a bad marriage does not mean we have to choose that pattern and turn ours into theirs.