Should I go my own way or should I go with him?

Question

My boyfriend gave the months notice to move out of our apartment at the end of august. He wants to buy a house, but we can only get one for around 90000CDN. The only one that has a posession of September 1st is a crappy little 600 and some square feet that is nowhere near my work and not convenient at all. I have no liscence or car and I can't afford a bus pass for the month if we are splitting the bills. Right now we live close to shopping malls, grocery stores, entertainment and daycare. He already gave the notice, so staying here is not an option. I found an apartment really close by and it is affordable. Should I go with him to the house, or should me and my 2 very young kids get an apartment? He had already said that he is not going to move to another apartment.

Update:

he is the one who wanted me to get the job and I just started a week ago, so for me to leave the job for a tiny house would be stupid. It is like he just wants to make my life as hard as he can. I don;t have a liscence, so I got the job closest to me and I love it. Plus he is going to want me to pay half and half, so top quit my job is dumb and pointless.

dkhae1 · Accepted Answer

He made the decision without your imput so I think you should move into the apartment. If he loves you and wants to be with you then you all will be able to work it out. But it doesn't seem as tho he cares much for what you think or feel.

TAWNIE · Answer

if you love him then make the sacrifice and go with him. Buying a house is a step forward in life anyways, why throw your money away to rent when you can own.You just have to ask yourself whats more important to you.  Your boyfriend and living in a house for your kids or keeping your job?  Remember you can always get another job, you cant always find true love again.  If he wants you to go with him and you love him then you should be willing to walk away from anything for him.  Im in love and I would do anything in this world to keep that person I love next to me as much as possible.

tabatha1333 · Answer

well i would tell him all the reasons you cant move to a house just now and possibly tell him if he moves to this apartment with you for at least a year you will go and get a house after and if he doesn't agree to that then just move into the apartment.  I hope everything works out for you :)

MelC · Answer

although he should've discussed this with you first and it should've been a decision the two of you made together I think that it is important that you go with him. But let him know how you feel about it and that you would appreciate  him talking to you next time before making big decisions and also that you would like to look for another place more close to work.

Karen Elaine · Answer

Girl, you know you better take care of them kids first.  Make sure they have shelter.  Go the route that insures you and your children have a roof over your head and gets food in their mouthes.  I think you should get that apt YOU found...  Plus you can always have the upper hand by having the lease under your name, you make th rules.

Tik~Tak · Answer

do what u think is best. do u think that living with him is good for u, ur kids, him? And if u do leave do u think that would be good for u , and the kids and your relationship with him? sorry to say but its up to u

ktpunk · Answer

you might want to reason with
think of the kids

Should I go my own way or should I go with him?

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