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I graduated college, and earned a degree of my choice. I'm planning to pursue higher education and reach my goal of becoming a nurse. I don't want to tell my family this, no matter how supportive they will, but it's decision out of passion not money. I have cousins and my sister who is studying nursing, all they do is brag & compare each other. I am tired of family comparing, bragging, complaining etc. I want to stick to my plans, but the problem is Im confusing my family. No one has any idea what I'm doing & they assume I'm wasting time taking random classes I don't need. I know what I want in life. I clearly addressed this to my family, but why do they want to know EVERY detail? I'm 24 not 12.

I recently graduated college (been 3 months). I have not found a job yet either. I don't plan working full time just part time. I am attending classes in January to prepare myself for nursing school. I need patience since it's a process for me to reach my goal. My boyfriend is a bit disconnected from me. We barely talk about good things, just arguments. He tells me to stop sitting my butt at home everyday and start working to save money for our future. My boyfriend works but it's not enough. I am really stressed because I'm also spending time with my mom who just got surgery. I know I'm frustrated about my situation since right now I just volunteer at a local hospital. I barely do anything else. During college, I felt like I had a life but now I'm going thru major stress and my boyfriend is no help?!

Ok. Let me make this clear. EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinions & disagreeing with someone is NORMAL. However, in my situation if I try to offer help or constructive feedback, my mon is totally against it. It's as if I don't have a voice of my own, and I remember growing up my mom was always against my opinions (this includes what I like or dislike about certain aspects of life). Example, my mom is very bubbly which is nice, but she goes ahead accusing people without concrete evidence. Her response "you learned how to speak because of me". Really? I learned how to speak while attending college. It's as if ALL her children have an identity because of her! She tells me "most kids are exactly like their parents" ..that's incorrect! I can never seem to enjoy a normal conversation with my mother because I know she has something to backfire at me like my mom would say "you can't prevent child-birth, it just happens". It's ridiculous. My mom makes me look bad infront of others because she tells people things which are untrue. Why does my mom complain how her sisters daughter is spoiled, when my moms own daughter is the SAME thing. Why does my mom support people who lie, wrong, two-faced? When will she ever agree with my opinions? Ok maybe that's impossible, but what can I do to make myself feel at ease?

I just graduated college, and haven't found a job yet. I decided to spend some time with my mother & commit few volunteer hours at a hospital. I enjoy both. I wish I had friends though, not that I am anti-social. I have many acquaintances, but barely anyone I would consider a friend whom I could hang out with. My life is passing me by so quickly and I am in a routine cycle. The times I feel the greatest are when I am spending time with family but OUTSIDE-not at home. I love traveling, exploring, and meeting new people. I just hate sitting home ALL DAY fantasizing of things I wish I had! I do spend time with my cousin whenever she comes to visit, but we're not that close. She's so busy with work and school. She also prefers speaking to her friends & rarely calls me. Life is sad & I am so lonely. I wish I was a teenager again becuase I never worried about such things like this.

I personally like to keep people wondering what I am doing with my life. If it's a friend or someone I trust, I usually let them know about my future plans. However, I barely tell my family what I am doing-as in career, education, etc. It is because I come from a competitive family and I have cousins who like to put others down thinking they are the best. My mother likes to tell EVERYONE what her kids are doing-nothing wrong but I just hate the feeling of someone invading into my personal space. I like to keep my plans & goals low. Whenever my relatives ask or my parents ask what I am planning to do career wise or study in school, I just tell them "anything in the health field". Honestly I know what I want. I have goals that I want to reach- I want to avoid conflict with others & negative people. I just want to take action! BUT, being like this confuses people & it makes it seem as if I dont know what I want from life. Everyone starts giving me advice what to do.